One of my nearby workplace colleague who I see him daily made a comment indirectly to my colleague,he told my colleague that I seem hard to approach which is true but he added that he is afriad that I might snap at people without reason,this is making me losing some confidence,I am not this type of person,I never show my anger,I hope to forget about this soon beside it’s not true,I never snap at people without reason
I would not put too much stock in that kind of stuff.
Dont know where you work, but they are just assuming without even knowing you well. Office politics---really bad where I work. Dont let it shake you OO
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From experience I know that the workplace can be a very hostile demoralizing experience sometimes.
My suggestion to you is to avoid this person for a while and maybe be a bit more cautious at work.
I made the mistake of letting this person work know about my mental illness - very soon everyone seemed to know and treated me like a child.
Choose your ‘friends’ at work wisely - dont open up carelessly
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Three years ago someone told me I look like a mean school teacher from the 1800’s. That hurt my feelings. 
You are in charge of your emotions and you know that you are not like a lose temper guy so don’t worry what others think of you. What he/she thinks is his/her’s problem. You are not there to manipulate your colleagues’ thoughts on building trust and communicate effectively.
For showing anger, I would just say try to control it even if there is a big reason to shout at someone. Forgive the person and move on. Sharing what bothers you is a best way to release temper. You did good by sharing it here and I believe that you’d have been feeling light after that.
Remember, anger shows how weak a person is. Everyone has a point beyond which things collapse but the best way to deal with this is not to let the matter be on that point. Avoid such situation and keep moving…
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Just wanted to reach out and let you know that people who don’t know us are going to make all sorts of guesses without knowing.
It’s hard for us with this illness because we don’t just jump out and say hello and get chatty. I’d say… don’t worry about them… keep going with your day and eventually the others will see that just because you are a quiet person… doesn’t mean your an angry one.
Please don’t let this kill the confidence you have. Keep striving and keep growing.
Hoping the best for you.
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Thank you,i appreciate what you say to me
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Hey Mobc , that almost seems like a compliment to me! I WISH my co-workers were afraid of my temper! Anger is a healthy emotion. I would be more worried if I DIDN’T snap at co-workers sometimes.
Better not to dwell on it. Just tell yourself he is mistaken and move on. You can prove him wrong.
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