What does married mean that most everyone seems to want to be married? I didn’t want to be married but I also just figured it was my low self esteem.
I got married for a green card. It was a practical thing and a lot of people in my generation aren’t even getting married anymore. Lots of defacto relationships with kids and the house etc.
I didn’t mind being married. I don’t mind not either . I guess in the right situation I’d do it again!
Excused from what?
I got married because I loved my husband and wanted to share our lives. Plus have legal rights to choose medical options if he or I were incapacitated or died.
If you aren’t married it is hard to get legal rights to certain things unless a will is involved and family can contest that.
For me marriage is sacred. I’d go to great lengths to save it. But I reckon divorce becomes unavoidable sometimes.
I had a friend and he just wanted “marriage and kids”.
So he found someone else who just wanted the same and they got married and had kids.
He had dated about 2 people prior to this.
So what’s the point I’m making ? I guess people get married for lots of different reasons.
I don’t know for sure, @anon4362788. A friend of mine was encouraging me to get married and she said “You’ll get sick less.” I couldn’t believe that. I just felt it meant more responsibility. But you won’t get bawled out for getting pregnant.
I’m getting such a late start on this as an adult, and with schizoaffective disorder to boot. Marriage was something that wasn’t on my mind in my twenties when I was healthy. I was going to do that in my thirties, then psychosis hit me like a brick at 30 and the next 5 years were all gradual, slow recovery.
I married my ex husband bc he wouldn’t leave my house and I didn’t want my daughter growing up thinking it was ok to shack up. I don’t judge others but for me it wasn’t right. I didn’t want to marry the guy and I hated him bc of it.
I would cry sometimes bc of it. He divorced me though. I do like my last name though
@Loke - it sounds like your ex has abused you to some extent. I am really sorry to hear. (((Big hug)))
Marriage should be consensual and I don’t think everyone should get married. Some people need more independence or adventure.
I wanted to marry my husband because I love him and want us to belong to each other forever
I wanted to get married because I wanted…never mind.
I got married because I wanted a companion and to be part of a family
I am also a loner though and need my me time!
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