I hero worshipped my adopted brother. His parents weren’t married. I got the idea that, to be a good person, it wasn’t necessary to get married. But, really, it’s the responsible thing to do. I didn’t take the time to plan a marriage for myself. I was always critical and negative.
My childhood friends parents never got married. They moved in together, had 2 kids and are still together.
My mechanic lived with his girlfriend, had 4 daughters, raised them. And then after all that they decided to get married.
I doubt I’ll ever get married. I don’t have enough money and schizophrenia scares away most women. Sucks but I’ve come to terms with it.
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I don’t regret not getting married. Still haven’t met the right person yet, and anyone I would have married, in retrospect, would have been a huge mistake
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I’d like to get married
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If I were 50 years younger, I’d say the same thing.
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Fair enough
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I wish I would have gotten married, it’s better than being alone. The only person I might have been able to be married to, was probably my first boyfriend. I don’t know if it would have lasted.
I’m grateful that I got married and I’m glad that it ended. There were many things about it that were good and also multiple good reasons for it to end. Maybe someday I’ll get married again but it’s been a good few years now since I’ve had any romantic or sexual contact with anybody and with everything I’m trying to deal with in my life I can’t imagine that’s going to change anytime soon.
I liked being married, I liked the stability of being with a person who was my person and I was their person. If I met the right person I would get married again but I don’t know if that’s going to happen. I would struggle being in a long term dating situation where marriage was not on the cards. I dislike the idea of switching between different relationships, I guess serial monogamy is what it’s called. I do well in relationships where there’s commitment and stability. Well, I did well the one time that I had it, I guess.
I dunno, I guess that I have the mindset that the point of dating is figuring out if you want to commit to each other, dating in itself is not an attractive idea to me. I don’t do well with the sense of auditioning for people, for lots of reasons that brings out the worst in me and leaves me very insecure and unstable generally.
But all of this is pretty abstract right now for me. I’m so low functioning and delusional and disordered generally. Basic friendship is a stretch, I only have two friends in my life who I feel comfortable talking to at all right now and that’s fine. I’m very grateful for them.
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