No shower before dinner tonight at my parents and my aunt is coming. Last shower was 3 days ago I think.
I just can’t do it. No desire/motivation. I’ll try washing my face at least. But. It’ll have to do.
No shower before dinner tonight at my parents and my aunt is coming. Last shower was 3 days ago I think.
I just can’t do it. No desire/motivation. I’ll try washing my face at least. But. It’ll have to do.
I was at someone’s apartment once and I went three days without a shower and the woman drove me back to my mom’s apartment because she said I stunk.
So you should try to shower.
Also I was going without showering on Fridays, Saturdays and Sundays and I was stinking.
How do you get yourself to shower regularly? I struggle so much with personal hygiene. I think it’s common for schiz people. @Dogslife
For the past 12 years I’ve been going days, weeks or months without showering and staff and a client in my ACT program have said things about showering that made me think I stink (which I do) so I’ve been forcing myself to shower most days of the week lately and will try to shower every day from now on.
One thing I learned is that I timed myself in the shower and it took 20 minutes and I realized it’s because I scrubbed everything 10 times or more so now I just scrub everything 5 times and I cut my showering time almost in half.
Some things you simply got to sort of train your brain to do. Many people have problems with cleaning. But you think - once your house is tidy - or you have had that nice bath. Dont you feel Better?
Its all about practising self care. No one likes to stink or live in a dirty house - cos frankly its just bloody depresses you and affects your mood. But some people dont recognise that - cos were all too caught up in our brain.
Do it in stages if you have too. How are you expected to feel comfortable - when in the back of your mind, you think other people, think you stink? Or your sitting in a dirty house or flat. No wonder you cant relax.
I think embarrassment is a huge motivation for me to shower before I visit my sister and her fiancé. I would be humiliated if I realized I stank to them. And I don’t like being humiliated. Just realize that you sweat every day and that your parents and aunt will smell it. If you’re OK with that then don’t take a shower but if it would embarrass you then force yourself to take a shower even if it takes you hours to motivate yourself to do it. Everybody stinks after three days without shower.
I find that avoidance is the best way to handle any family gathering.