Don’t get me wrong, I have loved. But the kind of love the poets write about is a mystery to me. To me love has always been a verb. It’s always been about how you behave towards others. Don’t get me wrong, I have been married twice, both for the wrong reason. My illness, and the fact that I didn’t know how to at least sort of fake “being in love” ki!!ed both marriages.
Here is a sincere question, Is it normal to never be " in love" as a schizophrenic?
Please be honest, have you ever felt for a lover\friend like you do for your children?
Maybe you have. I am 57, and never been"in love" with anyone except my children.
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I was “in love” but it was totally worship from a distance. I did not have the skill to make it actual. I was a dreamer.
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Being in love is a hormonal phenomenon. That’s what happeneds in puberty. You start to like the opposite gender.
If your sex steroids are low, you simply can’t “fall in love”. Or whit anything that interferes whit sex steroids correct function. Like some contraceptive pills, anti acne medications, spirinolactone, high cortisol, d2 antagonism and consequently high prolactin…
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Hi Troy!! I did feel love before. But due to my irregular and erratic behavior I can’t seem to hold a meaningful relationship let alone be romantic. But i did feel love once and still do to other people just not another person outside of my family.
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I am also a dreamer, can’t help it:(
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I’ve been in romantic love lots of times. It’s a temporary feeling though!
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i’ve been in love twice when i was younger. but as i age the feeling is foreign. it’s like my love grows out of loneliness, but when i get in a relationship the feeling quickly disappears.
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Have you heard of the term “aromantic”?
It’s for someone who can’t fall in romantic love.
They’re still able to feel other kinds of love, like the one you feel for family and friends, but aromantics don’t get romantic crushes.
It doesn’t have to mean there’s anything wrong with you. Love has many shapes.
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Thanks for letting me know that this is common enough to at least have a name. Sometimes this disease makes me feel like I am the only one who has my problems, but knowing that others have had the same experience helps. Sorry if that sounds self centered, but sometimes I think I have to be in order to be accepted by others. In case you haven’t’ noticed, being self centered is the new norm. Or maybe I have been isolated for too long. I was in a program that our local DHS has 3 days a week. I know it don’t seem like much, but it helped me with my delusions. Anyway, sorry if I rambled on, just haven’t had anyone to talk to for a long time. God bless and stay safe
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I haven’t felt romantic love because I married the safe choice vs one where I would be swept off my feet. Now with my advancing age and baggage I don’t think that I will ever experience it. I am trying to rethink beating myself up with positive quotes like this.
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I don’t know what love is.
I need to research it. Lol.
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I’m so much better on meds. Before I was paranoid and had a lot of erotomania. After I’m much less likely to love but it’s still there. I think I’m more practical and not as easily led into it. So. I feel love but it’s a bit more practical for sure.
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They should make love pills lol
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I’m in love now. I agree that love is an action as well as a feeling. I also loved before deeply.
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I’m afraid that everyone I ever fell in love with didn’t love me back.
Risperidone, has anyone taken this med.
I took this med and started to interact very well towards everyone, especially opposite sex and unfortunately doc stop this meds. I don’t know why though🤔
i was in love 2 times… but besides that i don’t experience the feeling of love much except for my parents but that is not the love you talking about i think.
I’ve just mostly been infatuated with the wrong men. There were some men I was afraid to talk to, that might have been better.
I have never felt romantic love too, but maybe I could feel it, I’m not sure because since middle school I’ve never been around women of my age.