My therapist is back to ghosting me again

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I posted many months ago how my therapist had ghosted by missing about 7 weekly appointments in a row then when I sent emails, voicemails and showed up in person to get in touch with her, when I finally got a hold of her she gaslighted me by saying she thought I didn’t want her as a therapist. Even though in all my communications with her over a seven week period I told her I wanted to see her. We finally resumed seeing each other and never talked about the missed appointments. Honestly, the only reason I still even choose to see her is I tend to miss a lot of appointments and I don’t think any other therapist would put up with it like she does. And she is helpful.

6 months ago we decided I didn’t need to see her every week so I started only seeing her every other week. Then we decided once a month is all I needed since I’m fairly stable and a crisis of any kind is rare. Well, I haven’t heard from her in two months, she’s missed the last two monthly appointments. I’m really pissed off, I feel she’s treating me badly and this is the final straw. As much as I dislike starting to see a new therapist I feel she has pushed me too far and I would lose any little self respect I have if I consented to see her again. Sigh, I hate starting over with a new therapist but maybe this new one will be better.

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My therapist told me that therapy with him should not be causing me stress but lessoning it and helping me deal with it. I see your point with your self respect. I hope you find someone more professional or something if you decide to find another one. I don’t know how up front you could be with addressing the missing of appointments issue with another therapist.

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This is a very frustrating situation to be in

I have something similar where I tried to get hold of my case worker

After two months of trying to contact she got back and said she was not my worker any more and she wasn’t being replaced

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I would find out why she missed the last 2 monthly appointments before getting a new therapist. There are a lot of reasons as to why she missed them. True? Maybe she’s not gaslighting you. If she says she doesn’t want to see you anymore, then I’d look for a new therapist.

That said, if you keep missing so many appointments I don’t see a good outcome with any therapist. Respect is a two-way street. True?

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True. But she’s missed way more appointments than I have. If I get a new therapist they won’t let me get away with it.

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@77nick77

Can you see a therapist via tele-health? That would make it less likely that you’ll miss an appointment.

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What organization runs Telehealth? is Telehealth an online therapist?

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@77nick77

I do tele-health with the VA. I don’t think tele-health is an organization. It’s a secure app, maybe it’s available in a portal. I don’t know much about tele-health, but you should ask about it.

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@77nick77

You see your therapist (video and audio) on your electronic device (desktop, phone, etc.).

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I hate zoom calls though. I did them for my classes in college because I couldn’t get out of them but I always disliked doing them.

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Moving to Dx’d - Sz/Sza.

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Sounds like a good call to me. Hope this works out for you my man.

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You definitely need a different therapist. She’s being extremely unprofessional and causing you emotional distress, the exact opposite of what you need in a therapist

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