So she came in from work asking me how my day has been. I tell her I haven’t been feeling very good mentally because I didn’t get much sleep last night.
She then stands talking to me in a loud voice saying it’s NORMAL to feel worse when you don’t sleep properly, then going on and on about her own problems with sleeping when she was younger which were SOOOO much worse than mine.
I was talking about how not sleeping enough makes MY mental illness worse ffs, nobody gives a ■■■■ about the symptoms I get from that do they? It’s all just MY OWN ■■■■■■■ FAULT.
Right so basically I have no right to feel more depressed today and it’s all my fault? Okay then.
So you’re not feeling well because you didn’t get much sleep last night. And your Mom was trying to pass it off as something less severe when it’s actually more severe? Am I correct? I can see why you would be upset about that. She sounds as if she is invalidating your feelings.
Yeah I felt like she was invalidating my feelings… a bad day for someone without depression is not the same as a bad day for someone with depression…but I’m feeling better now anyway.
She came in my room to apologise to me because she heard me barricading my door with my shoe rack… it’s annoying sometimes always having people coming in asking if I’m alright. But anyway in the end I let her back in and we talked it out. She admitted she said the wrong things.
Sounds like she has good intentions. I get angry all the time at similar things, I get tired of all the one-sided conversations. Most of the time Im the one who ends up apologizing, most of the time no one else will admit they might have been wrong. But I do realize that that’s something I need to learn how to handle. Can’t change anyone else, only yourself. I think I understand how you feel