My husband is flipping out

His dad left everything a mess when he died. He said everything was taken care of but it wasn’t. My husband is stressed to the max. He’s yelling at everyone and flipping out. We’ll have to ride this storm until he reaches the acceptance phase of grief. Ugh!

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The anger stage. I know this must be horrible for you to watch him going through this and you must be having a hard time too. I hope things get easier soon.

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What’s happening with the brother?

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He racked up $18,000 on their dad’s credit card. He is refusing to do anything with the house to get it ready to sell. He’s leaving dirty dishes and piles of junk everywhere. It’s a nightmare

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I’m so sorry.

He’s clearly out of control.

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If your husband’s dad died with debt, the debt dies with him. Cançt garnish a dead man’s wages. Dont pay the debt.

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My dad transferred all our family debt to a credit card in only his name right before he died. We erased thousands of dollars worth of debt because nobody could come after us legally for his debt. People will try to guilt you into paying it anyways, but you dont have to

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oh so sorry…I wish he wouldn’t yell…

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sorry for him
wish if he become stable soon

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I’m sorry @ZmaGal.
The passing of a parent is rough.
It will get better soon, you’ll see.

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Actually, all debt get paid out of the estate and is taken away from what beneficiaries inherit. He has notes and a house and a savings account that are all part of the estate. Debt doesn’t actually die with the deceased

Yeah, I don’t know the law on paying debts but it seems that “the debt dies with a person” would be too big a loophole for people to take advantage of if you think about it. Hell, if I knew I was old and in ill health and the law said I could rack up debt and it dies with me I would travel the world and live like a king and max out all my credit cards if me or my survivors didn’t have to pay it back.

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They didn’t do that with us. Maybe double check the legality. This was 15 years ago, but we kept all his assets.

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I dont know of other states laws, but here in Michigan the deceased’s estate usually gets put into probate for a little while so anyone who is owed money by the estate can make a claim. Now my understanding from talking to the family lawyer about it when my grandma’s estate was in probate is that they can’t go after family members for the debt, like go after a son for a father’s debt, but they can take it out of what the father had before it gets turned over to the son.

@ZmaGal, I would recommend your husband gets a lawyer to help you through this process. There are loopholes and very strange laws throughout our legal systems and it is very helpful to have someone walk you through them, lest you end up paying debt you don’t have to pay, or end up in court for not paying debt the estate was required to pay.

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Thanks for the tip @Later_Gator. We are already calling lawyers for help, but are waiting for a return call. We live in Michigan too.

My mom just informed me that my dad had no liquid assets, which is why they didn’t get to take money from him. He only had the car and the house in his name, and since it was the only family car and the only family residence, those things were considered essential, and could not be garnished.

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Oh ok. That makes sense.

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