He was told he has a few weeks to live. He was in ICU but they put him in a regular room and told him he’s dying. We’re going to bring him home so he can be around family.
My biggest worry is that my brother in law lives with their dad and he’s never lived on his own. He’s very emotionally disturbed, and he’s an alcoholic and get violent when drunk. I think we’re expected to let him live with us and my husband isn’t comfortable streeting him. We also don’t think he’ll be willing to go to a group home. So this really sucks.
He has one, but he’s not honest with her. He says he’s from Boston and talks with a fake Boston accent. He’s lived in Michigan his whole life. He also tells people his dad lives with him and he takes care of him when it’s always been the opposite.
I also live with my parents and not able to live alone. I can’t manage money, I will spend it all in a day. My parents receive my disability in their bank. I don’t know what will happen to me when my parents die in 10 years. Either homeless or suicide unless my brother let me live with him and his wife. I am sure his wife will reject that…
My issue isn’t that he needs help, it’s that he’s emotionally disturbed. He has even tried to drug me a couple times and it’s not my paranoia. It was confirmed by my husband. Do you do things like that to people? He has also started fist fights while at our house. That’s the kind of stuff I don’t want to deal with
Yes, this is my husbands brother. He says he knows his brother won’t agree to a group home, and he doesn’t want his brother to be homeless. His brother is on disability for physical injuries that he faked ( he said he couldn’t walk yet walks 10-15 miles per day). My husband loves his brother even though he’s so messed up
We do have kids. But I have a feeling I will be the one on the streets if I put my foot down and say no way. I’ve already told my husband I don’t want to live with his brother and he said he can’t turn him away.
The best way to help an alcoholic is to let them hit bottom. That’s where they find the will to recover, when all of the better and easier choices are gone. It may kill him, but it may also give him his life back. In any case having him in your home will destroy your family. Not kidding.
That’s what I’m worried about. I’m afraid everything will fall apart when he’s here. My only hope is a big settlement with the nursing home that severely neglected my father in law and put him in this situation in the first place will enable my husbands brother to live on his own. We’ve decided to sue, because they were supposed to be helping my father in law walk, and they let him fall twice, and one of those times he shattered his hip. Then, they allowed him to be so severely dehydrated that he ended up in ICU, and he coded 4 times. Now his heart is too weak for him to keep living. It’s such a mess.
Holy hell, that’s all kinds of horrible. Will keep you in my thoughts. Please feel free to PM me on the BIL issue if you need feedback from an Old Timer member of AA.
Anyways now I am much better, only shopping addiction and severe negative symptoms, staying in bed all day everyday, only get up to eat. In bed either sleeping or on this forum.
