He always expected so much out of me, more than I could deliver. He always expected me to have a successful career and life, even though he never had such. He pretty much refused to accept my illness as a limitation. I was labeled as “gifted” when I was a kid, and he always thought I should still have that limitless potential.
Now, here I am, unemployed because I quit my job. He wouldn’t hear the part about how they were getting ready to fire me, just that I quit my damn job. My sister is a bit more understanding, but I still haven’t told her about the job loss. When I do I think I will just say I got fired. I fear I would never hear the end of it from her and my brother-in-law if they knew I had quit a good-paying job with benefits.
My dad died from a heart attack four years ago, so I don’t have to hear or read any snide comments from him, but when I was thinking about it just now I was struck by how badly this all would go over with him. My mom would have been more understanding, but she’s gone too, since 2006 (breast cancer).
Don’t beat yourself up for this. You are doing the best you can.
Soon it will change and things and life will get a lot better.
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I’m sorry your parents passed.
I’m also sorry you feel like this situation would be such a disappointment for them,
But maybe you’re projecting a little.
All of our parents have just disgustingly high expectations,
Straight up, I seriously think my son is going to be president one day.
Not joking.
Will I be disappointed if he’s not?
No, I just know he has that potential and I want him to see it too.
Its a weird thing, being a parent.
I feel like you’re being harder on yourself than your family would be,
But definitely tell your sister you were fired, sisters are jerks…
I’m a sister, so I can say that.
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I quit a job once, and I lived to regret it, I was also partially delusional when I did it. All others, I’ve been fired or made them firing me by walking out. One thing for sure, getting fired is better because you get unemployment benefits
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my father is the same way…he is a doctor and wealthy and thinks I “could do something”. we fought over it and now we aren’t talking…I know what it’s like to have someone normal expecting too much from you…I hope maybe you can go on disability if you can’t work…wish I had more to say.
Not in my state. Here you don’t qualify for unemployment if you were fired for just cause, such as poor work performance, which would have been the case for me. Here you can only get unemployment if you lose your job through absolutely no fault of your own, like if you only lost it because your employer went out of business.
i hope i can make my dad proud, if he is in heaven i hope he is looking down on me saying ‘thats my boy’ 
sorry about your loses btw x
I can’t go on disability, can’t wait for all of that, plus it’s not enough money. I’ll find work.
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Another thing about disappointing parents,
We all want to make our parents proud,
But we can’t be a slave to those standards they set out.
What they’ve built up in their minds is on them,
We have to live our lives,
And only you can know what works and doesn’t work for you.
Just because they’re family doesn’t mean they know every facet of you and know what’s best.
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Same was true in my state but they actually have to contest the unemployment benefits and I’ve never seen them do that in my cases