I know that I am 15151515
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Depends. Because I cannot work or don’t and thus don’t have a decent income I have to depend on others and hear their ‘bs’. Fortunately, my household understands. It was mainly my biological father I disappointed I think…
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Yep. They’d never say it to my face I don’t think. Makes me feel like rubbish.
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I guess a failure. I was supposed to be independent, work, get a career or job going, and make money. Maybe even have kids to pass on my last name haha. I mean all that is over and done with and bs anyways…
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I guess it crossed their mind and they must have thought about it but nothing they ever said or did showed that they considered me a disappointment. I think it helps that I’ve taken care of myself for many years and they don’t have to constantly worry about me like they did when I first got sick. My mom and dad were proud of what I accomplished but I’m sure they would have liked to have seen me do more.
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I actually wouldn’t agree , on surface I am. But in reality, I’m the one who keeps it together. They’re dumb as hell and need me to keep their acts together. They’d be a mess without me being present - if my beliefs didn’t stress family ties, I would have left a long time ago because they don’t value me much at all - I shouldn’t have to be humble for others arrogance is what I’m saying
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My family has been nothing but supportive. Come from poor stock financially but they are people who would do anything for you and they did. I didn’t have to go to hospital when psychotic as my mother said she’d look after me. Got me through without the wards which I’m eternally grateful for.
Anyways. I think it’s not something to beat yourself up about. I couldn’t change any of the sz stuff so it’s all about the now anyways and I find myself helping look after the old boy 20 years after an overseas jaunt. It’s the right thing to do so everything comes at a cost but I appreciate my family so willing to pay the price…if it’s not worth it with yours then that is the tough stuff where you need to do what makes you healthy.
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My sister is a lawyer and my other sister is a nurse, my brother has a big position in utilities, so I guess you could say I’m the least successful of the family but I live a low stress life, sometimes stress free. I get to spend all my time on creative pursuits. Even though I have freedom I’d give it all up to work for a living and support myself.
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na. my family doesnt give a ■■■■ about things most care about. no one cares or ever bothers me to do more stuff.
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I’m not a disappointment to my family.
But they used to brag about me and I guess they don’t anymore 
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I’m not sure as it’s was never openly said by either of my parents. What I do know is that my father interacted far more with my sister than with my brother and I. She’s the only one of us that’s had a professional career that’s got anywhere near to matching my father’s . I’ve never worked. My brother worked in restaurants as a junior chef / waiter until he got ill.
My father? Short spell as an army officer.Switched to the Foreign office. Was high ranking enough to have a ‘Who’s who’ entry. He was the diplomatic equivalent of a 2 star general when he chose early retirement over becoming British ambassador to the Gabon.
My mother? Met my father at the Foreign office. She was regarded as having promise. She stopped working when she married my father. When they separated she got a job as an assistant library manager. It was way below what she was capable of, but she never strove for better.
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I set the bar very low as a teenager
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Yes. My parents told me I was a millstone around their neck.
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Both my parents never openly told me to my face that they were disappointed with me but I’m sure in the beginning of my illness they were.
It’s really only natural.
My brother is extremely successful and wealthy
He is an over achiever.
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My father sees me as a nuisance
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No none of us are a disappointment in my family
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I used to be a disappointment, now I’m a success story.
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no they have always supported me greatly with my illness.
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Black sheep here
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The hopes were high when I was a teenager, and already before that. Then trouble started a few years into university. I think I disappointed them, worried them as well of course. They would have never guessed I was going to be the problem child. But then I did get back up on my feet again. And that makes them proud.
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