Yes, it gets better. I spent a year in the group home at age 19-20. That was followed by eight months locked up in the psychiatric hospital. They put me in the hospital because I was severely ill and I was not functioning at the time and i couldn’t take care of myself. I spent the entire 1980’s in hospitals, group homes and mental health supported housing.
Now I am looking back on being employed for most of the last 35 years, I’m close to getting my college degree. I live in a nice apartment, work part time, take college classes, and I drive a nice car which is all payed off and I own it. This is how things change. No one who knew me in 1980-83 when I was at my sickest would have ever guessed in a million years that I would ever do even one of these things.
But things change, and things often change for the belter. But there is no big secret to what I’ve accomplished. The reason I am here today is because I always take my medication, I see psychiatrists regularly, I have always co-operated in my own recovery by going to the groups, vocational programs, programs, family therapy, etc and just following the programs and let them help me. Because there’s a lot of people who want to help us and see us do good.
Like the infamous Woody Allen once said, “90% of success is just showing up.” And that’s what I do. My current job is easy, but I do not always like getting up at 7:00 am out of my warm bed three days a week and fighting traffic for a half hour to get to work. I do not always like the people I work with but I like them enough to get along with them. I have an appointment at 2:00 pm today with my shrink. I don’t necessarily dislike him or dislike going to see him but there are other things I’d rather be doing. Life, as you know, is full of things you have to do or need to do and whether you like doing them or not is irrelevant. You just do them.
I would like to tell you that recovery is easy and fast. But I can’t. Seeing improvements can take months or even years but when you finally start to get better all the hard work and effort you put into achieving it makes all the crap you went through well worth it. To get better you will often have to things you hate but it will pay off later. People who have family support have a better prognosis than people who don’t. It’s sad that not all families are supportive but just consider yourself lucky that you have your dad in your corner.
Just keep going and doing the right things and you will help yourself. Good luck.