My dad told my sister to look for a decent girl for me to marry

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I’m very anxious cause my dad told my sister to look for a decent religious girl for me to marry. Honestly I think about marriage every day and I know it comes with a lot of responsibilities that can be stressful on my illness. My dad is opening a provision store in a few weeks I will be working there since studying in school didn’t work out. I think it won’t be fair to me or the girl they get for me to marry, I know being single for life will be tough. I don’t know what to do! My main concern is financial security

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I kind of agree with your point. I think I’m a good person but I have a lot of baggage from being schizophrenic for 35 years. Anything is possible, but I don’t think I am the best catch for a woman out there.
Personally, it doesn’t bother me that much. I still get to talk with woman and be around them. And they have the privilege of being around me (half-joking). Our families need to understand that we are under special circumstances and they have to allow for that.

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Yes you are right. I feel marriage comes with financial challenges. So you are also single? I see a lot of interesting an attractive ladies but then my mind tells me I’m too ill to be with anyone

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Yeah, it doesn’t bother me that much. I’ve accepted it and life goes on. I’m not ruling out having women as friends (or more) but I am definitely ruling out getting married.

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I’m thinking of ruling out Marrige too. Seriously!

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I think it’s a good idea to take life one step at a time. Right now, you need to focus on doing well in the store. Once you’ve been doing that for a while, and you know you’re good at it, maybe the idea of having a wife will seem more possible. And maybe it won’t. I don’t think you should totally shut the door on the possibility, but don’t rush into anything.

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wow, my dad told my sister the same but she knows that I don’t care.

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It might depend on what your age is or how severe your symptoms are. Some people who have schizophrenia do get married but marriage with schizophrenia should be on a case by case basis.

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I’m 29 and my symptoms are under control. I will just wait and see how things work out in the store

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Yeah you are Right. I will just wait and see how things work out in the store first.

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“My dad told my sister to look for a decent girl for me to marry”

don’t let anyone pressure you to do something that you really wouldn’t want to do.

I’ve made a few mistakes in my life because I thoughtlessly went along with some plans that weren’t inherently mine.

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I won’t Allow myself to be pressured into it. I will just see how things work out over the next few weeks

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that’s good. if I was being arranged to be married, I would reply with an obvious “no” to my dad. “Obvious” in my perspective and my situation.

but we are all different.

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