My best friend complains that I'm

jealous and suspicious of everyone that calls her or comes over to her house, when I am over at her house. She says it is so bad that she has to turn off the ringer to her phone and not answer her calls, when I am over at her house, and she resents this and it makes her mad.

Is this jealousy or paranoia on my part? I am suspicious that my friend is dating these people behind my back. She says she is not.

Also, I don’t know whether this calls for therapy or even more meds. Feedback please.

I don’t know you two well enough, I couldn’t tell if she is a cheater or not. It’s possible she’s cheating, but then again it’s just as possible that she’s faithful.
People surprise me all the time with the crazy sh*t they do and the secrets they have and the stuff they’re getting away with.

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Sounds like you’re paranoid she’s seeing other people.

Are you dating this woman again?

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@goldenrex, @77nick77, Officially we’re not dating. We’re just friends because we are platonic. But, we are supposedly not dating anyone else either. I still love her. She says she loves me but, in an Agape way. That’s good enough for me.

Well my philosophy is: If relationships were easy, we’d all be in one.

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I get more jealous about female relationships than I do male. I tell myself it’s childish, which it is, but is doesn’t help at the time. People need people and need more than one so don’t suffocate her with fears of being rejected if you can help it.

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This sounds more like a relationship than a friendship.
If it’s a relationship or an ex you don’t need meds you need to hook back up or quit seeing eachother.

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I think people sometimes feel jealousy or worry about cheating because they are insecure in the relationship. In my own relationships, when I feel insecure it means I need to look at what hurts, what can be fixed, or what I need to let go.

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If she’s dating people or talking to other people, as long as she’s treating you with respect and not being disrespectful you shouldn’t mind. I think it probably is a bit of paranoia and a little fear. Please talk to a counselor about how to manage paranoia.

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Halfway relationships aren’t really sustainable. One person eventually starts wanting more or less. If you aren’t willing to date her, you shouldn’t hold it against her if she dates other people. It isn’t fair to have it both ways.

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