My baby's daddies have new positions in their field. Both are very dangerous and I'm concerned

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I can’t get into a lot of detail,

But both my baby’s daddies work in politics/government.

Due to current world events,

Their jobs have changed.

One is currently in Iraq and the other is soon to be working on issues with the Ukraine that involves travel.

It’s unexpected and a nightmare.

I’m super worried about them and my kid.

They have an au pair, one that the family is very happy and comfortable with,

But I feel terrible the kid is not getting to see his dads as much.

Additionally,

Both daddies are going to war torn countries that are not by any means safe.

It’s selfish, but I wish they would retire.

They’re not really retirement age,

And it’s unfair for me to want to cast their careers they spent a lifetime building aside.

It’s still scary.

Additionally,

It’s the holidays.

I wish I could help.

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Sorry to hear about this debacle @Charles_Foster . Can be a tough deal when people you care about have dangerous jobs. I’d say don’t worry but I know it’s tough not to. I worry a lot too. Maybe you can talk to a shrink about this? I’m sure they could recommend some cooping techniques. Wives of soldiers for example must deal with this a lot so I’m sure it’s well researched.

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Thank you.

I appreciate your reply.

I’m trying to remind myself what tough dudes they are.

I do believe they’ll be fine.

Worrying about everything is kind of, well, my thing.

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I don’t have much to say other than to express my support and I hope you are able to become less worried as the situations become more stable. It wont last forever either.

Also, yes, try some cooping techniques as chickens are relatively stress free.
(hoping a joke will help, lol)

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Corny!

See what I did?

It’s more chicken jokes!

They eat corn, right?

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I’d be scared too. Hopefully they’ll stay safe.

In situations that are totally out of my control, my goal is to allow myself to worry and think about it for 15 minutes per day.

Outside those 15 minutes, if it pops up in my head, I force myself to do something that gets my mind focused on something else or talk to someone about themselves and other things not including the issue.

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It is scary. Also something to be proud of. That your son’s fathers are making a difference in a world that sorely needs it. But it is scary.

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