she asked me why I would want to live in assisted living? I said, meals are prepared, have a place to live with activities, and I don’t have to drive. somebody on staff would drive me to appts.
in Indiana you have to get a disability waiver for certain Medicaid assisted living facilities. im thinking it would be hard for to get into one, they would probably say im better off where I am. anyways im considering it. not this year but maybe next.
the advantages of staying here are I can garden, lift weights, and be close to family and a friend
the disadvantages is I live in a commuter community with poor roads and im being pressured to go back to work or school. which at the moment I really don’t want to do.
anyways I told her she would get over her grudge and visit me if I moved into assisted living.
Assisted living is for people who can’t live independently. Not people who just don’t want to. You won’t qualify for a facility, based on what you say about your life. There are limited beds, long waitlists, and not a lot of resources.
Having a caseworker drive you to places is much more practical than living in a residential facility. I don’t know what you’re picturing, but they’re not exactly five star resorts with lush gardens, loads of activities, all patient, kind staff, and loads of friends to talk to. They’re generally underfunded, understaffed, and have limited resources. Many of the staff are just burnt out and don’t care anymore. Many of them have frequent infestations. And you definitely won’t be eating your super healthy, balanced meals that you’re used to. These are places people go when they don’t have other options. If it was the way you’re picturing it, everyone would want to live there.
From reading your posts, you seem fairly independent and well adjusted. You have a lot of things going for you. Sometimes you get burnt out by life and feel you need a break and resort to something simpler. But that feeling never lasts and you’ll want to get back on your feet and do things again after a few days of taking a break. I think your life now has a lot of value.
Another thing to think about is not being able to do what you want, when you want. No loud music, even if it isn’t really loud. No coming and going as you please. You’re giving control of your life over to others. And if you get kicked out, that would suck to get a new home again.
thank you all for the input. im feeling much better and less interested in pursuing assisted living. when I think about it, I got it pretty good here. I just don’t like to drive, that’s really the only negative of living here. I can’t remember the last time I just took a drive somewhere spontaneously, it’s been a few years now. I only rarely drive to the grocery and to dr. appts when no one else can take me. my caseworker is taking me to get my shot on the 25th and she also said she could take me grocery shopping sometime. but im not sure if she will do it weekly, I think her schedule fills up pretty quickly. that’s my only trouble. am thinking of giving up my license already.
Wait. You have people drive you around but don’t give them money for gas in return? Oh brother. Also, it’s 2019. There’s Uber, Lyft, Instacart, Postmates, Amazon, Amazon Fresh, Blue Apron, HelloFresh, and countless other ways you can get around or get groceries.
no I don’t pay anybody to drive me around. but thanks for your concern.
the only people that drive me around are my parents, sometimes to the grocery store about once a week. and then my caseworker who is paid by Medicaid, drives me to appts. sometimes. most of my time is here. I don’t feel bad about it and nothing you say will make me think less of myself.
I do pay rent to my parents. do you? just wondering miss.