I was trying to be cheeky, but you’re right. It wasn’t my place to say anything, and I don’t have any room to judge. I was throwing stones from my glass house. I’m sorry.
That said, it’s up to my mom about when I can start helping out financially. I’ve been too sick to be safe on the road up until last December, so I can’t drive, which means I don’t have a driver’s license, which means I don’t have an ID, which means I can’t get a job. I don’t know what it’s like in other states, or even other counties, but here, there are some hoops to jump through if you didn’t get a license and/or passport as a minor. I do give my mom all the money I end up making from presents, which isn’t much, but it’s something.
I live in a small town in a Midwest state. We don’t have a traditional busing system. We have vans paid for by Medicaid to take people to appointments.
Sometimes case manager takes me places.
Being independent is better than being in a assisted living facility. My partner works at one. She has to work hard to help those who can barely help them selves. I’m not completely independent I know
I’ve lived in an assisted living center for over seventeen years. The one I am in is pretty good. It’s definitely not a resort, but it isn’t terrible either. People are free to come and go for the most part. They can only force you to stay here if you’re court committed. I’ve been in a couple of other assisted living centers for short amounts of time, but not really long enough to know what the quality of life is like there. How strictly they enforce the rules depends on the caseworkers mostly. When I first came to this assisted living center I stayed drunk about four or five nights a week, but they cracked down on that before too long. That probably saved my life.
i lived in a group home for disabled people for 18 months that ended last october. the company went bankrupt due to state budget cuts. but we could come and go whenever we wanted, it was recommended we sign a log book of when we left and got back so they would know where we were at, not everyone used the log book though. there was 2 other schizos there and 2 older guys in their 50s that lived there. and for the most part there was 2 women during the day throughout the week that did groups with us before the budget cut and then they couldnt bill us so they wanted to charge us out of pocket which was liek 40 bucks an hour so we stopped doing groups but if we needed to talk they would still talk to us. there was some issues with staff there tho. the only male person threatened to fight my roommate one day when i was asleep and the day worker woman was there and witnessed it so they called the boss and she fired him on the spot. soon after his wife who also worked there ended up quitting. the reason him and my roommate got into an argument was because his wife said that we werent mentally ill and that we could work and hold down jobs which we cant, along with some other stuff. one of the staff workers in her 60s had a crush on one of our neighbors and was making jokes about when there werent enough chairs at the table then she could sit on his lap or something like that. but soon after they went bankrupt and i think they knew it was coming because all the workers went without pay for like 3 months before that happened.
overall though besides those isolated incidences it was really great getting to be around people that understood me as far as the staff and my neighbors. sometimes i still think that moving into a group home again would be best but i think i am doing good being independent now.
spent it. I was over the limit for Medicaid. I bought a new laptop, a nice acoustic guitar, a new couch, a breakfast nook, some wall décor, gave $500 dollars to the church, and spent about $1000 dollars on Christmas, also I bought some new lamps and a rug. I think that’s it. o yeah dad had a birthday and I got him something as well. a backpack blower for the yard.
I decided there is no incentive to save money because I would lose my Medicaid and not be able to afford my meds. I was saving for a downpayment on this house in my hometown but it sold anyhow, and I got this new place im renting now from parents so I don’t need to worry about getting a place. also was thinking about maybe going back to school with the money. a move to north Carolina to study horticulture.
Slightly off topic, but my nephew is transgender and currently being assessed for possibly having bipolar and he told me that because he hasnt gone to school since he was 12 (hes 17 now) and his parents are totally at wits end he said “if i have to ill move into one of these group homes”. The ignorance of that statement pises me off because these homes are literally for people that have no options and generally pretty low functioning. It mainly pissed me off because the kids smart and is already writing himself off.
From the little i can know about you from your posts on here, i would say you’re certainly not low functioning and probably still have a lot to offer despite how you may feel right now. Dont give up. Dont write yourself off.
Personally, me moving into supported housing was the best move I’ve ever made. Its slightly different than the states because I’m from the U.K. I live with two other males and we have a 24/7 staff team. We live on a normal residential street and apart from our direct neighbours you wouldn’t know this is supported hosing. It’s a shared house and we have communal kitchen and living room. I get on really well with the two other residents and staff, its always nice to have company. I get 21 hours one to one support and I use that time to visit the cinema and go out for coffees. I bank my hours and go on trips with staff the furthest I’ve been is a coach trip to Germany.
It’s really cheap to live here. I get my rent met in full by housing benefit, totals about £900 a month, on top of that I get £1.160 a month benefits, out of that my out goings are £130.00 a month for utilities bills. The rest is disposable income, because its supported housing I’ve never had a problem obtaining benefits. I do release I have it really good here.
What do social security benefits pay in the states and how much of that would you have to pay out if you live in assisted living? Do you have to share a bedroom with other residents?
It’s pretty much guaranteed that you moving into assisted living will be the worse decision of your life. You will hate it and then loathe yourself for moving there. Stay with mom and work through your personal issues.
If I had gone into a group home ,as was being planned for me at one point , I would never have been with a wonderful wife , and have the love and support of my stepdaughter and granddaughters.
I doubt also I would be here on this forum using a laptop. That is not to knock group homes in the UK. Some people need that level of support.