My violin teacher was afraid of cats. When she had to come to our house, she asked me to make sure our cats were out of sight. I planned to put my cat in the garage, but since the teacher’s fear was not acceptable to Mom, Mom said I didn’t have to do that. I was doubtful and sure enough, when the teacher arrived, the big tomcat came strolling in from around the corner of the house. My teacher fled to the corner of the porch with her hands to her face so as not to be too loud in her protest. I was so ashamed of my mother. I knew enough to know that personalities aren’t perfect and it is unfair to expect perfect rationality in all our behaviors. She was a simpleton, my mother. I was about 11 at the time.
my mom was such a sweet hearted lady only the pdoc kept urging her to discipline me.
funny – i was my mom’s daughter all the way, a well behaved angel.
so why? judy
A child’s life is difficult. Maybe you buried some of the conflicts with your mother simply because she was so sweet. I don’t really know. I’m not an analyst. Did you encourage yourself to “make the break” with your mom when you were growing up?
it was very complex situation because when i made the break my parents were very ill. i didn’t abandon them since they never let me help out anyhow.
and i wound up needing a psych ward almost immediately.
judy
So the tables got turned. You had to help your parents instead of them helping you. That interrupted your growing up, I’m sure.
was very very immature and naiive at the time. they didn’t ask for help then but they couldn’t help me with my health which was deteriorating rapidly mentally.
sticky.
judy
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You have to do what I have to do and that is concentrate on the present and future instead of falling back to the past. I know that is difficult when we keep getting reminders.
thanks chordy. you’re absolutely correct. it is very difficult. judy
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