Modern friendships: the scoop

This is a lot of writing, but I do not feel sleepy yet.

One of my childhood friends moved to my city so I was excited and having not talked to her for many years, I did and we became friends. I do not like some of her characteristics like most, but whatever.

She did a wedding last summer in her uncle’s house and I was there and even bought her a very expensive present and all the time, tried to help her in everything I could.

She got married civilly for paperwork so now this year she wanted to do a church wedding, she even bought those huge wedding dresses. She told me all about it and she knew it was my cousin’s wedding.

She always says things like I will call you and does not and sometimes asks me some weird things I am not used to in helping.

Anyway, Now I completely forgot she was having another wedding, so I bought a ticket and came here.
I think her wedding is July 1st =( while I am here.

I think she is upset bc she did not even tell me goodbye. I mean I am no longer sure what others are expecting of me?

Is it horrible of me to miss her wedding ? it is the second for no logical reason. + She knows I have been wanting to come here for the past year alongside my illness and depression/

I am tired of people

Another woman i knew on a site who is at least 55 is upset with me because I was flirting with an old guy. I mean he is like my dad and I only joke around sometimes. What does that have to do with her? She said if she could block me, she would because of my behaviour?! LOL not sure about this funny story. What am I gonna with that guy so I thought maybe she really liked him. What a weirdo!

Do you have friends ?

Normally people send out invitations :confused: then you reply saying whether you can attend or not.

yeah not like that in our culture. I was supposed to plan it I think :joy:

I guess there is a huge clash between me being out for 10 years + the culture + my modern thinking
so something is off.

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I don’t really have any real friends except my husband. People exhaust me! Plus I’m weird

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I don’t see anything wrong with joking around or playful flirting on the site, the chance of meeting up with anyone is probably 0%, seems odd to get upset about it, but I have had a woman on here get upset with me for the same and I meant nothing by it other than having some fun

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yeah why would I need validation from her? It was like a silly joke once or twice maybe she is gay? or in love with the guy? I do not understand

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really only your husband? don’t you expect too much bc of this?

Sounds like the problems are theirs, not yours. Don’t apologize for either things, just look back at them thike they’re nuts and have a good cup of coffee,or tea and keep on living (trying anyway) a good life.

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I am tired. Not only I have to deal with anhedonia and craziness + worry about pleasing people around me. And the funny thing they make me feel bad for 5 minute of happiness I get to experience once a year. She did not even care when I was going through depression. It was horrible!!!

I rely on him heavily, as he does me. And we are very in love. My husband rarely lets me down. I am beyond blessed to have him in my life.

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Yeah that does seem odd.
Guess people always try to control others when ther can’t even control their own life.
Wouldn’t life be so much easier if we could all get along…

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