I apologise.
I am very blessed to have a faithful man who tells other woman who want him that he is taken.
I trust him and will not let it get to me.
Then she may get what she wants which is why tantrum …
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I am blessed with a great man partner boyfriend.
Thankful for it every day and for my parents etc too.
I think as long as you are stable then having a child while mentally ill is no different than a normal person having a child. There are people who are mentally ill who are still WAY better parents than certain people w no mental illness at all.
However, I do find it concerning if you choose to have a child if you can’t even financially support yourself. I don’t find it to be a very wise or well thought out decision 
I don’t think only the rich should have children, but if you have kids despite knowing you don’t have the money to properly feed/clothe/house them you are being impulsive. What happens if CPS is then called and your kids are taken away? Separated from their family and forced into the sucky foster care system? In addition, it shows a level of thoughtlessness because you are expecting someone else to pay for your choices. For example, having kids and demanding your dad pay for them, or going on welfare and demanding random strangers pay for you to have kids. It’s one thing being on welfare and asking for help bc of a disability you didn’t ask to have vs demanding financial support for a choice you made and didn’t give others a say in. Again I don’t think only the rich should have kids, I just feel before you have a child you should at least be able to support yourself.
Also, if you are so sick you cannot handle a job, even a very basic one, it is highly unlikely you will be able to handle children. Children are a full time job. In fact being a mother is one of the most demanding and stressful jobs there is. You work 24/7, for no pay, you never get any holidays, or even personal time and space, or proper sleep.
Honestly, from the bottom of my heart I think it is unfair to have a child if you struggle with a mental illness. I’m about to turn 39 and is hard knowing that I’ll never have any children but I have my dogs. It stings sometimes especially when I go to my gyno for my well woman etc. however, both my parents have forms of mental illness and had never “really” been there for me. my Parents caused me to have severe ptsd and fear of abandonment. I know that I had to end the cycle of pain! I have days when I want to slit my wrists and just hurt from head to toe but push myself to take care of my husband and dogs…and me. The added responsibility of a child would be too much and not fair to anyone. I’ve cried over this many times, but I know that I only have so much energy to remain above water that I should not put an innocent through that…
I saw a tv show about a couple with Down syndrome that were totally full care dependent on parents and staff and this couple got married and had children.
They did not work but received money and care from the government .
They were praised and adored.
Every one was so happy for them .
Why was everyone over joyed about them having a child when they were unable to care for themselves …
I believe disabiled people can bring great things to the world with out physically working they can still pay there way with a bit of imagination n love there is a way…
Not sure if I agree with you guys.
Yes being around a psychotic parent can be damaging and harm a child but in other cultures the parents may not be seen as schizophrenic but something respectable .
Maybe it depends on the individual.
Different disabilities seem to be treated very differently I guess the symptoms might be different.
I know a disabled woman who has four or five children.
She does not work but is a full time stay at home single mum last I heard.
I think her x pays child support and that she might get money from the government if not maybe her parents help her out because she lives close to them and does chores for them and helps her parents out when they go away she minds their animals and home.
Most pedofiles ate considered highly educated rich and normal I think.
Although she does not work her eldest son who is late teens has a job and even can drive a car.
To each his own. I just know how my childhood was for me. I also think that is sad your friends children only have one parent and must get government money in order to live. I remember being so poor I pulled my red wagon around delivering phone books when I was young while my father laid in bed with depression and my mom had disappeared for awhile. I was laughed at by the other children.
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