This really is an honest pondering… Due to an upset at my SZ group.
This isn’t meant to be a judgement or any strong opinion, but more like a quandary.
When I read or hear of guys in my SZ group who say that they ONLY want a girl with a mental illness like them…
That makes me feel a bit sad. Because if there was a girl who was lovely, kind and patient… would she really be cast aside because she wasn’t mentally ill?
I think of how hard it is for me to get through my day, how would I help someone who might be sliding into psychosis? I’m determined to stay med compliant, but what if the girl I dated didn’t want anything to do with meds… how would I handle that?
There is a guy in my Sz group who is looking for a girl with lower functioning then he is because as he says… “then he will be the one in control.” That made me scared for any M.I. girl he might get ahold of. Because he’s going in looking for control not for love and support.
There is a girl who has entered my existence, who had a beloved Uncle who was Sz. She is kind and witty and thinks my jokes are funny. She likes to read as much as I do. She’s learning how to surf really fast. She’s seen some of my bad glitch days and didn’t bat an eye. (so far we’re friends with an option for expansion of that definition)
But here’s the thing… She has no mental illness. According to guys in my group, I’m supposed to dump her because how could anyone who’s NOT sz ever be good for me. Thinking of the mentally ill girls I have dated and how they have almost killed me… why would I discard a friend and actively exclude anyone who wasn’t MI?
If you are offered love and friendship… why cast it aside for a label? Why exclude? Why not include?
If love came your way, but the girl or guy was not mentally ill… would you shut the door?
Just a ponder…