It’s been difficult to find a man, anyone have any success stories? I really want to have children in the future. I realize with schizophrenia, I deserve a happy and normal life. I don’t like the way some psychiatrists make it sound: as though it is the end of the world. It is manageable with the right treatment, and you can do outstanding things. Anyone have success stories in love and/or career???
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I have neither unless you count @shutterbug 
. Doesnt bother me that much though. I’ve reached the age where I just consider it an early retirement and I dont care that much about the love life. Sure it would be kind of nice to have someone to lean on, but I’m not sure it’s worth the sacrifices I would have to make at my age. I like my independence too.
I was fortunate to be diagnosed late in life though. I did a good chunk of working and living prior to diagnosis. I wouldnt presume to know how those diagnosed early and have had to deal with it their whole lives feel.
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That was slightly depressing, but thanks for sharing. To each their own
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I have had a marriage, a kid, and a career despite being told I couldn’t. That was when I was 24 and now I’m 54. The important thing to know is that – at best – 20% of your recovery will come from your meds. The other 80% will come from you fighting like hell every single day for the rest of your life. If you’re banking on the meds to do the heavy lifting then expect to live a life without much success.
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Been almost steadily employed since I was 22 in 1983. Mostly low paying, entry level jobs like doing stock work, warehouse work, restaurant work and my current job as a janitor. Didn’t make a ton of money but the jobs put gas in the car, bought me good food and some luxuries. I also just got my AA degree back in December.
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I’m married with children (youngest is now 17). I haven’t worked in 10 years though. I couldn’t handle the paranoia there.
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I have completed my degree though I was diagnosed with MI. Had an up and down career but now in a much better position than before. Married and have a kid. Though there are lot of fights and arguments I am ok with the relationship and connected somewhat to run the show at home. This is quite an achievement for my standards and being diagnosed for multiple illness.
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Thank you for the advice, good advice by the way
I’m sick at the moment and very tired so I don’t have the energy to type advice in detail. Search for my username plus “CBT” and “recovery journal” and you’ll find old posts with more info.
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Im married, have 4 kids (two from a previous marriage, pre-sz), and am happy. I dont work, im on disability, but ive come to terms with that. My work is around the house, taking care of the kids.
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I am married and own my own business with my husband. My business is co-run with my husband which allows me to have flexibility when I have an episode. We employ over 20 people. Does put more pressure on him at times, but then I contribute again when I feel better. I 100% got off anti-depressants 15 years ago by regulating my mood with diet. Being able to not be depressed (which was most of my life) and stabilizing my moods is what I contribute to being able to accomplish what I have. Really have not have bad depression in 15 years now, now just controlling the voices and delusions.
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I think you have a lot better luck than SZ men do in finding someone to have kids with.
The two women I know IRL who had psychosis are both in long term relationships where as I can’t say the same for any of the men.
I am working patient of schizophrenia. I worked regularly. Married after failed in love, to another girl. Successful marriage after 26 years. Two children. One is doctor and daughter is doing engineering. Two homes. One is from my parents part and other is I bought myself at other town. One car suv I bought. But of course I am lazy at work even now I am off meds. I am only take intrest in eating good food etc.
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How do you figure that? I have recovered a level of function that exceeds what many neurotypicals are capable of. Also, you’re kind of being rude. Again.
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I don’t figure it. Its your words. " 80% is fighting like hell every day.". And I like to mention, it is not recovery.
It’s working for me. If you’re not pushing forward it means you’re going backwards.
How is fighting to be well not recovering? What is the thought process to this?
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Fighting itself is not recovery. Its clear. Otherwise in the end of fighting.
I’ve just figured out why you never sound well.
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Well I am in good shape than most of you. Look at selfie threads.