Lately my friends haven’t hung out with me as much. I have a hunch that they are giving me the run around. I haven’t hung around any of my friends in a little over a month. And I have four friends. And I haven’t done anything wrong with hanging out with my friends. Do you have any advice?
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I have lost all my friends too. People are afraid of mental illness. They think we are dangerous.
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If you want friends join a gym. They will give you NO CHOICE but to talk to them.
I hear AA is kind of like that too.
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I’d like to join my local AA group that my friend and ex-alcoholic who did his PhD under Noam Chomsky runs, but I don’t drink and never have done, except for the occasional Guinness and Rum and Coke. I think it would be good experience for me, but what would I have to offer, cigarette and porn addiction;?;
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I think as long as you have a desire to quit drinking you’re welcome there.
Idk… call a local chapter and find out
Dont alienate your existing friends. Stay close to the ones you have.
Do your friends know you have sz? How long have they known?
yes, they have known for at least a year.
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I haven’t had a friend in over 20 yrs…id count yourself lucky to have four
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That’s good. At least you have that going for you.
You’re still in high school, right? Teenagers can be mean sometimes, and it isn’t always intentional. When I got cancer a lot of my friends stopped talking to me. I just wasn’t around for a while and they got used to hanging out with just each other. They sort of forgot about me. When I got healthy again, it was pretty lonely. But then college came, and I made all new friends anyways.
i don’t know if i ever was myself enough to have friends. I’ve been out of my mind. There’s been things seriously wrong with me, so I isolated a lot. Was I ever really me or just delusional? Really I think I just had aquaintances. I had a few freinds when i was around 20, but I never really said much and wasn’t all there. Then I had the big sz and have had that eve since.
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some do, but I find most don’t understand it, and do not want to take the time to bother, so the just disappear so they don’t have to deal with it
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Hi This is very common experince amongst voice hears try to remember thats it’s not you personlly as it would not be a common experince, try to take some of the advice below or you could start a freash somewhere else and only disclose your condition if required by the situation.
Friendship takes upkeep. You have to put in the time and work. IDK what’s up with your friends. Having friends comes naturally and there’s no need to overthink it but all I can think of is to make some kind of gesture showing you value them as friends and want to be around them. I don’t know what the gesture should be but something friendly. I’ve had friends turn on me before, I’ve had best friends cut me out so I know what it feels like. It lasted for awhile then we became friends again.
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Thanks Nick, my drum lessons teacher said it’s hard to keep a friendship when you are married and have kids. but I’m still not sure if they aren’t hanging out with me on purpose. Because one friend talked to me on the phone and set up a day to hang out and then he never called me back. He did that twice( 2 times in a row). My step-mother said I should be friends with a single person. I think that is a good idea.
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One is better than none.
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Before my SZ I had more than 25 friends that I always hang out with and over 700 facebook friends. Now I deleted most of my fb friends, I have 150 now. On Abilify I was able to keep 4 friends but since I switched to Latuda I don’t go out of my house and its been over a year I haven’t seen them. I do still whatsapp 2 of them from time to time. My psychiatrist told me Abilfy is the best they have for social function but I had serious side effects like gambling, hypersexuality and complusive shopping.
Keep in touch with them otherwise you will loose them. I text on whatsapp my 2 friends every 2 weeks about new music albums, tv shows, movies, soccer and computers. I lost many friends and my gf because they knew I had SZ.
I know what you mean, this is one of the hardest aspects of being SZ it must be even harder when your younger, Me nowdays don’t really care to much, just remember it’s not your fault that your condition has encroached upon your life in this way, where it should not have, they should of understood and made allowances, also it’s very ,very common for this to happen, some people lose their jobs,wives and homes, so mate it could be ten times worse.
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