Thanks @POET . I’ve thought about it. I think it would be easier if I attended a book club for a while first to see what I like and don’t like.
But, maybe I should just jump in and do it. I’m not sure
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I agree with your own strategy. Order something small. See what crowd they are. If they are stuck up, leave.
If they are kind, maybe in a while, you could be open. And just admit that the prices are on the higher side for you. I don’t know how many women they are, but if only a few, maybe they are fine with more affordable options.
I would never make up excuses. If they judge people for not being able to afford fancy restaurants…you will never make genuine friends there.
Starting one is cool too! You can create one to your liking. Maybe look once or twice, then go for it.
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I dunno. It’s not a stuck up thing. Reading clubs are a common excuse to socialize, it’s not about just reading the books. It’s okay for women to want to meet at a restaurant as they don’t want to cook or host at their houses. Could they meet at cheaper places? Absolutely. But it’s not a stuck up thing. Don’t judge before you meet them. That’s just setting yourself up for failure.
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I would also avoid. Theyll judge no doubt
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Yeah @sweetpotatopie , I have no idea what kind of people they are. I agree with you they may not be stuck up. I won’t know unless I get to know them.
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Yeah, they aren’t necessarily stuck up. Can be. Not necessary. You don’t know.
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That sounds more like your Husband’s problem. If he isn’t comfortable with you being around men, that suggests he doesn’t trust you around other men. Thus, a conversation is in order.
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If you meet a friend there they are going to eventually find out. I wouldnt go to a book club where everyone spends a good part of an hour eating.
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Avid readers probably had higher education. Students never have much money so they surely can remember living on a dime when they were in school. I’d just say it’s not in the budget at this time.
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If they say something, I’ll say that. My plan is to order the cheapest thing on the menu and just try to see what the group is like.
I don’t want to assume that just because people have money means they’re stuck up even though my insecurities say they’ll judge me for having less.
I went to a meetup group before with my husband. At the time, I was cleaning for a living. The group did look down on me and get rude once they found out. That’s where my insecurities come from
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Go for it @LilyoftheValley ,only one life you have…
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I think it can go both ways. Some people with money look down on those with less. I’ve seen that too. Even if I could afford this lifestyle again, I don’t want these people in my life. I’ve also seen richer people treat others in a normal way. They aren’t always judgemental.
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I agree @anon21280033 . That’s why I’ve decided to go once and see what they’re like
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Good plan. Hope you have a nice outing. Good luck.
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20$ for salad what wow that’s expensive I could make a salad get all the ingredients for a fraction of that cost
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I agree @AwesomeFisherman . And it’s for a side salad not a large entree type salad. The dishes there start at $30 each.
Thanks @anon21280033 !
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Do you know whether they will have individual checks at the restaurant or just split the check? I would get that clarified before attending.
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Ya that would hurt
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Omg @Moonbeam ! I didn’t even think of that! Thanks!
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