I never enjoy having sex, and I didn’t think it was a problem, only in the past few months I’ve been experiencing sexual confusion.
When I’m alone I sometime think of sex and I feel like doing it, but when I met somebody I don’t really know what’s happening to me
I get anxious, sometimes paranoid and have intrusive thoughts taking over me. I can’t really connect with somebody on any level, so imagine how hard is to connect sexualy.
Maybe I’m afraid, I don’t know, I want to experience sex and I’m sad because I will never have a healthy sexual relationship. I don’t know how to deal with this, I’m still confused because I don’t know if I really want to have sex or the intrusive thought are making me…
Well, when you masturbate, do you fantasize about sex?
Does it feel like masturbation is not enough?
I sometimes think I want sex, but what I really want is to lie and bed and snuggle with someone and kiss and touch them, but the sex part I don’t really want.
If your voices and intrusive thoughts keep you from having sexual relations, is it something you could talk to a therapist about?
That’s not it, its been a couple of months, and every time I had sex was with a few months within, I’ve been experiencing anexiaty and Paranoia every time
I’m sorry. This was what sex was for me every time for a long time. Talk about it with your therapist. Maybe they will have some advice for you. Mr. Star and I did exposure therapy, and it’s helped a lot. We don’t have sex all the time, but when we do, we both enjoy it now.
And how did you manage to get into a relationship? When I have intrusive thought I feel embarres because I’m thinking of having sex with that girl, for example. And I avoid making any move or saying something to her, and I can’t figure out if I like her or I think I like her. This is confusing
It was hard. I spent long time alone, because I was too afraid. I blew my chances with a great girl, because she asked me out and I was scared. But I had to wait until I was ready. I worked in therapy on a lot of things.
When I met Mr. Star, I decided he was a really nice person, and I should give him a chance. He was just as nervous as me, and also had trouble with physical affection. So we had matching baggage, and it helped us understand each other’s struggles. Other people used to get mad at us for things we couldn’t help. But with each other, we got it. We took things very slow, and when we started doing physical stuff, we used exposure therapy to get used to it.
I might be a misanthrope. I like most people in person but as a hole I don’t like them.
This might have something to do with this, I can’t put my finger on it but I feel like something is defining me into what I am and all my problems have a explanation I don’t really heard of it before, maybe searching for myself will reveal this definition. Thank you guys for helping me
I still enjoy sex and I used to be an addict but I don’t get the same enjoyment out of it anymore. I think it’s the meds and just getting older. I am almost 50.
I can take it or leave it now.
Hopefully it gets better for you. You are still a young man.
Healthy sex is when you don’t do it too often. Sex is not a big issue. Considering the world sex is the least important thing. I mean if one never has sex it’s fine…you can still live a fullfil long life even without sex.
I need to talk with my therapist about sex. I have several bad attitudes that I need to express and work through. Also because of certain meds I take for Benign Prostatic Hypertrophy I now have some physical problems (which may go away with surgery). Also I wonder if my anti-psychotic meds reduce my sexual drive and performance.
In short, I have a lot of sexual problems.