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I looked at a girl at wal mart and she seemed bothered by me which i dont blame her with my gnarly beard but then during the same wal mart trip another girl was looking at me so i guess some girls like the beard
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hmm always good to be friendly
I said āhello darlingā to my neighbour yesterday, wasnt hitting on her lol, but she didnt appreciate it. Sorry i simply cannot call women i know well āmateā - its not in my dna 
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A strange man calls me darling, honey or babe, I put them in their place! Hate those nicknames from a guyā¦.but Iām meanā¦soā¦
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I would never do that with a woman whether I knew them or not. The only one I allow to call me babe is my boyfriend, or I guess I should just say friend for now. We havenāt met in person yet, just chatting with Google Chat.
Yeah true. But ive known them for years. Probably sound like like a right misogynist, but most women i call āsweetā lol. I mean i called a trans lady āmateā once - and she got offended, thinking i was calling her a bloke. Sometimes you just can win
I donāt mind sweet, and bloke or mate because Iām familiar with British jargon and I donāt find offensive. I know you donāt think Iām a man when you say it. Iām talking about strangers though. My friends can call me whatever they like, and Iām okay with it.
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In the uk it is pretty much acceptable to say ācheers palā or ācheers mateā when you have been served in a shop/bar
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Pretty girls get a lot of unwanted attention.
I wouldnāt take it personally.
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I got a dirty look when I said āhiā to a female employee at a new Mexican restaurant we were trying a couple days ago. No idea why. I didnāt find her attractive and was just being friendly when picking up order. Was in no way flirting. Maybe she was just in a grumpy mood. Probably not a good way to encourage repeat business.
Food sucked by the way. Worst Mexican food Iāve ever had.
Its one of those things. Nobody likes to get a dirty look when they try to be friendly. Nobody likes feeling forced to interact with people when they arenāt in the mood to socialize. Nobody could ever make friends if they didnāt try to be friendly to strangers. Nobody can perfectly predict whether or not a stranger wants to socialize until they ask. Nobody can be polite 24/7.
Try not to take it personally. There are a number of possible reasons she didnāt smile back. None of them have anything to do with disliking you as a person. She doesnāt know you as a person. She just did not want to participate in the social interaction.
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I will sometimes refer to women as dear or sweet tea but itās not very common.
I come from a generation where this was acceptable.
I hope it doesnāt offend anyone and hopefully it doesnāt come across as being sexist.
My intentions are good
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Yeah, there is this, too. Back in my Girl days, it was a double edged sword. On the one hand, I would sometimes get free stuff. On the other hand, I would sometimes smile back at a guy and wind up with him starting a 20 minute monologue about how other girls are all shallow hos, but he can tell I am different and he knows we belong together. Meanwhile, I was just trying to buy flour and rush home to finish my cake.
I was sometimes surprised by who would make those monologues, so when I was in a hurry I would project ā ā ā ā OFF vibes to everyone so I didnāt get unexpectedly trapped by someone who looked kind.
Lovey pet names for strangers is not cool.
Thereās this guy outside my grocery store always trying to get us to sign one thing or another.
They get paid by the signature,
So I always ask him what heās got and sign everything.
Last time I stopped, while I was filling out the papers he kept calling me āsweetieā.
I donāt know if Iāll stop anymore.
I find it condescending.
However, I do realize sometimes this is an older generation thing, maybe a cultural thing.
So maybe I should be more understanding.
But I think that feeling comes from getting too much attention when I was in my teens and twenties.
Itās a complicated thing.
You should have said āhelloā. āHiā is too informal for stuck up people.
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I come from a culture where it is acceptable to call people honey, sweetie, dear, etc. It doesnāt bother me unless it is followed up by the person acting like I am stupid or naive. I consider it polite.
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My dentist lady still calls me sweetie pie 
I generally nod pleasantly and greet everyone I pass on our walking paths. Iāve noticed that some of the teen females react with body language that says they think Iām about to stuff them into a white panel van and lock them in a dungeon for ten years. Tells me that theyāre having too many negative interactions with other males, which is uncool.
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