its been 2 weeks free of alcohol (new years revelations) and I’ve had 2 mates constantly wanting me to have drinks with them. As much as I tell them I don’t drink anymore they say ‘‘it’s only one time’’ They don’t understand I can’t just do one last time. It’s all or nothing with me. Its annoying.
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They aren’t friends. Friends don’t do that. Sorry. That’s very selfish and inconsiderate of them
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I have been drinking with them for over 20 years so I just think its hard for the to readjust.
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Explain to them why you can’t drink anymore. If they’re real friends, they’ll listen and support you
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Don’t drink. It really is a waste of time and money.
Plus drinking on meds isn’t a very good combo.
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Your doing great for 2 weeks so keep going youll be feeling better giving up booze
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Yep, that’s often the case when you want to get clean. You have to be strong and make a decision. You’re going to have other people asking or telling you to drink. You just have to decide that you aren’t drinking no matter what, no matter who it is asking. Whether it’s your friends or your housemates or your family or a stranger. You can’t let anyone sway you if you really want to remain sober.
You might have to pick between sobriety and your friends, whether you want to keep those friends and drink, or drop those friends and remain sober. Hopefully, you won’t have to choose but if you do, I hope you pick sobriety. The old-timers in AA used to say you have to make sobriety the most important thing in your life because if you keep drinking, you won’t have a life anyways. You can still have fun in sobriety and make new, sober friends.
And if you’re hanging around pubs and places where there’s drinking and hanging around people who drink, AA used to have a saying for that too. They used to say: “If you hang around a barber shop long enough, then eventually you’re going to get a haircut”. Meaning if you put yourself around temptation, eventually you’re going to cave in and drink.
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do they know about your addiction? If so that’s not very kind of them. True friends should support their friends.
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i agree with this. For your own health.
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My best friend is an alcoholic himself. We’ve been drinking 20 years together. I said I’m not visiting him if he’s drinking and I’m only going to restaurants for food and not pubs to socialise.
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I hope you don’t start drinking again.
Be smart, look for new friends.
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If he can’t sober up with you then he is your former best friend. There is no way you will be able to hang out safely with him if he is drinking and you’re not. This is the number one cause of slips I see in my sponsees in AA. They think they can keep hanging out with old friends in old places.
Nope.
If nothing changes, nothing changes.
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Glad your not drinking. You will certainly lose some friends when you quit - its just a fact of life. Dont end up like me - with a dodgy liver. Its not pleasant.
Im still falling off the wagon now and again - even after that.
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They’re not your real friends dude
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My friend visited me he wanted to drink, I gave him a beer but I drank coffee and had popcorn. We watched hockey.
When we go to bars I just order diet soda and food.
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You know what they say ‘misery wants company ‘
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