I was not someone who could ever rely heavily on her looks, so I don’t understand quite what you’re going through. I can only tell you my observations from the outside.
But my best friend is similar to you. She is 39, and has already done her eyes and get tons of botox, and I can tell you this – people think she is the same age as me. I’m 49. And I’ve had nothing done to my face, and I’ve already gone through menopause.
If you do a lot of work, especially so young, you will look older. I can see getting a slight lift in your 50s, maybe, but save it for then, and just take as good care of your skin as you can for now. Don’t try and look younger!! You will ■■■■ up your face. Just try and look the absolute best you can for your age.
Getting older – no, men don’t look anymore, and you get called ma’am. But there’s a groundedness that comes with it. I hope you can tap into that, and just let the rest go. Laugh it off. A friend of mine who is a few years older than me – that’s what we do. She looks her age, and she looks great.
I’m not saying I’m perfectly confident, because you know I’m not. But I hope this helps a little. Age is going to happen to you whether you like it or not…
I’ve found that the women who get a lot of cosmetic work done generally make things worse. You can tell they’ve messed with their faces and it takes even more work to make them look “normal” in Photoshop after a portrait session. Also, those tats that everyone thought were a great idea when they were younger don’t look so good 20 years later and I get asked if I can fix those as well. Nope, you’re stuck with them.
Honestly, your skin is the story of your life. You’ve earned every wrinkle and scar so wear them with pride. Just be confident because confidence is sexy in a woman (for healthy guys anyhow).
I take the stance of enhancing looks instead of completely redoing them. I don’t want to see anyone falling down the rabbit hole of chasing the perfect body, because the surgeries and injections are never enough.
With that being said, using procedures to enhance your natural look is fine IMO. I’m covered in tattoos, have had reconstructive surgery for gynecomastia, and have done other things to look the way I want to look. I don’t really see a problem with it.
Too be fair I also don’t see a problem with people going all out in plastic surgery, as long as it doesn’t hurt anyone do what you want. Realistically though, the harsher the procedure the more likely a poor outcome. We’ve all seen celebrity horror stories.
I guess I have a middle ground response, that may be a bit unpopular, but I say do what you want just keep your expectations for what a procedure will do realistic.
This is just my perception. I think women in the United States are conditioned to believe they have to be beautiful to be loved or accepted. Screw that. I’m tired of not feeling beautiful enough. I am who I am and if you don’t like it that’s your problem. It did take me 45 years to get to this point though.
