Friends disappear over time, they get married and have kids. You’re no longer a “priority” for them. Goodbye 
friends.
The same happens to your siblings if you have them. Goodbye siblings.
It looks like if you didn’t do as society demanded by getting married young and having kids, you’ll be all alone.
I know some marriages don’t work out, but not getting married seems to guarantee you’ll be alone when older.
There’s a high chance I will be alone in the future and only have occasional contact with social workers. My family never contacts me anymore, and I have a feeling they don’t want to be bothered, so I don’t contact them.
Your kids get married and are busy with their own lives too…so Im not sure anything guarantees you wont be alone as far as anyone but maybe a spouse that you stick with/sticks with you.
I have pretty much as much contact with my remaining living sister as my parents do, so I’m not sure that argument holds water in many cases.
Kids can leave, friends can leave, Siblings can leave. Everyone can pretty much get involved in their own lives.
Its just a matter of how close your family(or friends) is , I guess, regardless of the familial relation to you.
I’ve noticed the same pattern, married people flock together and they seem to forget about the ones who chose / were forced by circumstances to remain single. But that’s only half of the story. I’ve also had single people ghost me, upon digging deeper it was proven to me they had become loners and suffered from various levels of mysanthropy, probably acquired over years of getting rejected or failing to reach their childhood dreams. Ultimately that’s where I might be headed to, even though it’s a prospect that disgusts me. I don’t want to be alone.
There’s nothing stopping you from joining social groups and meeting new people except you. I am socially disabled and still able to make new friends easily because I am capable of pushing myself when needed. My wife generally functions better socially than me and has a hard time making new friends because she does not make the effort of getting out to do things. You don’t make friends watching reruns on the tele.
Marriage is not a guarantee of company, even with each other some days.
My sibling got married had kids and completely forgot about me
Honestly I don’t want irl friends
I don’t want a girlfriend or wife
But I do wish that my relationship with my brother was closer
I didn’t treat him or many others with respect growing up so now he’s got a lot of animosity towards me.
But I know that deep down inside he cares
I am searching for a female friend on local site.
Don’t have fb.
All people in church turn bad.
Can’t find match but I’m trying..
The fact that I’m obese,only makes people think that I eat sausages and garlic all day,so prejudice is there…
Tomorrow I’ll go to church, you never know…
Hope you can heal things with your brother snd get closer.
Maybe apologise sincerely for being disrespectful and tell him you respect him anc want to be closer .
I could have been a better older brother to him in my childhood but I wasn’t well mentally
It really wasn’t my fault
I’ve apologized to him a few times since then but my brother unfortunately is a narcissist so it’s a tough situation
It feels like a loss that i missed out on my type of marriage only one i consent to (free ,love ,respect, prenup n separate finances yet generous n take care of each other or have solid agreement both happy with ,no controlling jealous behaviour, loyalty, care,kindness. Peace n so forth n no governments or family or other people etc involved or
Trying to dictate .)
I never felt that sexual compatible intimacy love free etc way i want .wanted divine masculine to experience it but feels like i havent snd eve. The best sex ivd had felt lime it was a woman inside mans body .its not permitted almost to use word masculine but i mean no offence use word passion or compatible instead.
Dont know if i would ever marry if so only if compatible sexually n all levels n freedo. Respect n agreements agree ipon.
I had jealous malicious people in my body acting as me snd who rui ed my life and destroyed ne with psychological torture n rape n other stuff.was set up to look n feel bad n they look n feel good though tbey aint n on stolen holinez.
47 years and i hardly ever hsve felt like myself with true eyes n spirit n nature etc
Trailer park boys ricky is so sexy and he has su h a gorgeous wife .
Theres some happy peaceful marriages.
I am sad for myself that mh life was pretty miserable and painful n i missed out on being n ferling like myself in own body n career n friends true beaut ones n own home n activities ond lives etc
I never had kids.
As such.
Had few happy moments lime i played in pool feeli g like self few times n loved living in sa.
Mostly lonely n suffering.
Last female friends ihad said tbey only want friends who work and have goals and fancy socialites .
They were actually bad yo n for me n were never real friends anyway.
They have no ideahow hard ive worked with real eyes n eons n nature etc
Tbey dont know me .
I have one friend in sweden n im his only friend n disrespect him but he deserves so much respect.
He is my inly friend inway i guess but havd boyfriend.
Difficult for me to get friends.
I joined penpal site.
Wrote with eoman owns horse ranch n when dhe found out i dong work shd wanted nothi g to do eith me .
I left pen pal site.
I dont want a partner with multiple wives then i have multiple partners n hubbies too..
Not a member of any religion.
Sometimes i believe i have friends .
Guess we on forum have so e form of online friendships.
I would not marry my partner at this point because im not sexually satisfied and feels like theres a woman in his body thats not him most if time .i adore him but things are definitely not aligned or hood enough to consider marriage.
Also because we both on disability pension n one gets less mo ey as married .
Family who destroyed me have pretty perfect socialite lives .
They are married n their friends are married.
They ho to vineyards with friends for werkend stays once every couple months .
Holidays overseas couple times year,
Boat cruises . Fancy dinners and so forth but they are not authentic humble hood beings or people n i want nothing to do with them after all they stole from me n abuse etc they all against md all alone.
Tbey dont deserve accesx to me .
Best wishes for us all n our social life n good connections etc
At least we have each other n forum .
If one partner disabled n cant sex can use spiritual sex or creative solution.
Permanent friendship is an option. Wife / husband/ children/ friends of childhood/ collogue etc. who cares you, make them friends. Also lover and ex.
I have a good friend living in other City, I talked him on weakly basis. He knows my Sz. No problem.
I guess if @anon17326926 can share some successes that reveal his identity, so can I. It’s not a secret that my best friend died almost two years ago and the loss hollowed me out. I’m still dealing with it. After saying that, I am moving forward and making some new friends. I think my favourite is James:
I have been on several shoots with him now. We both tend to be busy and it’s hard to get together often. He is not a landscape guy and I am, so we are still working out how to both do what we like on a shoot. He is farther down the autism spectrum than I am and okay with talking about it.
Click on the pic above for the album. That was our first shoot together and it went well. In terms of meeting others, well…
I didn’t really set out to make friends, but I joined a group for local paddle boarders to get idea of places to paddle and a bunch of them organized a float down a nearb river. My daughter and I joined in. I’m still reguarly in contact with about half of them including “that guy” (you know which guy). He’s a blast to know in real life - everyone needs one friend who just does whatever comes into his mind whether it’s appropriate or not.
So, yeah, I meet people and do things with people. They’re not all married or single. I also have a friend or two who are neurodiverse like me and I make time for them and appreciate them as well. If you really want meet others, you can.
You just need to get your @$$ outside.
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