Is marrying worth it?

One of my childhood friends parents never got married. They lived together, had kids, raised them and are still together. They never got married and from what I know, they are happy.

I know another couple that were together, started a family and had kids, raised them, are still together and happy. And then once their kids moved out decided to get married.

I also had a childhood friend who had parents that started to hate each other, and the father warned me about marriage and kids and how he was on the hook to pay for it all and had to work his ass off every day, lol

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Friends of mine have been together for over 20 years, raised two children and now have a grandson. They’ve been together for over 20 years, never married, never even talked about it. And they still got along fine

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Depends on the people. Some do really well. Me and my husband are good match. We’ve been through a lot, but are each other’s main support, their rock.

We had a really rough patch twice. Once about 5 years in and another about 15 years in. But after my breakdown, my husband and I worked out our problems and haven’t have a fight in 5 years.

My therapist told me she’s never seen a relationship as good and strong as ours in all her years in therapy. And she’s seen a lot of married people.

I take some credit, but my husband deserves most of it. He is so good to me and is there whenever I have bad moments. I can’t imagine having to go without him.

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That’s awsome @anon4362788 . I wish I had made that kind of connection in my life it would be so much easier with someone by your side, 2 help each other out

I can’t say I was looking for love or a connection. It just sort of happened. We were friends and just hit it off when we met in person. Even then we said we were just hooking up. But a month later he told me I, was the woman he wanted to marry and a few months later we got hitched.

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I guess sometimes love does Rule the Day. Anytime I have met a girlfriend, I was never looking for one. It always just Falls in my lap it seems

I think it can be worth it if you get the right two people together. But as often as not, it does not work out. It just depends on the individuals who get together. There are both a lot of success stories and a lot of failed marriages as well. For someone to say it is not right for someone else is being a little narcissistic and projecting your own world view on others IMO. For those that it works for, I say good for you!

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Did it once. Messed it up. Won’t do it again.

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