What do you think of weddings?

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I was inspired to make this thread by Loke’s “say anything” post.

But seriously,

Do you think weddings are worth the trouble?

I had a big, fancy wedding and the older I get the more I regret doing it at all.

Would still marry my husband, just not like that.

My sister wants to get married in Vegas by Elvis and I’m kind of envious of that.

A few weeks before our wedding I tried to convince my husband I wanted to do a small wedding at a destination.

Like just the two of us.

But we had already paid deposits and were pretty locked in at that point.

My wedding ended up being a total shitshow.

What was your wedding like?

Do you think it was worth it?

What is your opinion of weddings in general?

Useless pageant or sacred ceremony?

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I had a JoP wedding but wish we’d had a bigger one like we planned.

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It’s never too late to have a wedding.

You could 100% plan a big “wedding”,

Have family and friends there,

Celebrate your union.

It would be fun!

My friend did it a few years ago.

She and her husband have been together since she was in 9th grade and have 6 kids,

But didn’t have an actual ceremony until the kids were practically grown.

It was great.

Everyone got to really appreciate it and have a good time.

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Costs too much. And I am a lot fatter now, not going to put on a floofy dress.

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I got married by the JoP. I’m not willing to spend a grand on a dress I’ll only wear once.

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Mine was wonderful and wonderfully simple. We held it at the small church we attended at the time. The venue and preacher didn’t charge us. A few family members came and several members of the church. I didn’t have flowers decorating the place or anything like that. For my bridesmaids (two awesome ladies), I just told them to wear nice purple dresses. They already owned them, so no purchases necessary. Guys wore purple ties. Lace table cloth for refreshments and cake table with purple underneath. We made a lot of the stuff, like the boutonnières. Church members brought in light snacks/ food like it was a pot luck, but I was so thankful because I hadn’t given that much thought! My wedding dress was gorgeous, with a lace top and beautiful train, and I got it on clearance for about $100 at David’s Bridal, no alterations needed. I made my veil, did my hair and very light makeup. We spent less than $500 on the whole thing, clothes included. I don’t understand the need for fancy, showy weddings. If I’d had that sort of money, my wedding wouldn’t have been different- we’d have just put a down payment on a house!

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I think it’s a matter of taste.

If I was to have a wedding, I would like have a smallish to medium sized wedding. I would want my immediate relatives, but would not want it to extend to a very large wedding where there were a bunch of people there that I hardly or don’t know. Like peoples “friend of a friend” style stuff.

That being said, I have no issues with people that want to have large weddings. If they want to show off a bit with a fancy wedding and throw a big bash, I have no issues with it.

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Too expensive, I could have a dirt bike and a truck with all that money.

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Absolutely not. I hated mine and it upsets my wife each time I tell her this. In fairness, I warned her in advance that I would hate it, but she somehow thought I would change my mind once it happened. It was too big and had over 100 of her family members.

To anyone getting married: Just elope.

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WHen I was married we had a western wedding I ordered a western wedding dress for a hundred bucks. We used an old time wagon as the back drop. It was ok and all under 500 bucks lol.

Ended in divorce anyhow lol

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We got married by a judge in municipal court and had a small reception at a veterans lodge, basically close family and friends

It was a small casual wedding

Didn’t cost that much

Glad we did it this way

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I heard in the news a guy married himself. Now what do you think about that? Honestly?

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You don’t get married to get sex. Getting married to get sex is like buying a 747 to get free peanuts.

Jeff Foxworthy

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I’m not married and I’m not sure if my partner and I will ever get married or just register a domestic partnership. But if we do get married we aren’t doing anything big or fancy. Even if we had the money, I don’t think it’s worth the stress. Town hall for us and then a reception party with our closest afterwards.

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I don’t want an Indian wedding inviting everyone I don’t know :woman_shrugging: I just want a registry wedding maybe even in a nice location in the uk

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I don’t understand people having extravagant weddings is all. Spending all that money and time planning it.

My husband and I got married on the back porch at my parents. Got married 1.5 weeks after getting engaged. We had 4 people there.

I have people on my Instagram that have been engaged and planning their wedding for years… I don’t get it

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Mine was a registry office. Being a young chap at the time, moving in and settling down in into a new house cost obviously a ruddy fortune.

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I loved my big wedding, and would totally do it over again.

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That is simply the ideal thing to do: elope.

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