Is living really better?

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Some get knowledge. Some get understanding.

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Oh, she had both when working with others. Over two decades later I still have her old clients finding me on Facebook to tell me how wonderful my mom was. I think it was a perspective issue. Too close to her own problems to see them properly, given how large they were.

Pixel.

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What would you say if one of your kids said this to you sample?

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An occupational hazard: We get so good at fixing them that we buy our own b-----t. There’s also the matter of contamination of the “new” by the “established.” I observe to notice to recognize to acknowledge to accept to own it constantly. Otherwise, I’m an accident waiting to happen. (And even then…)

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@shutterbug and @notmoses why don’t you guys get your own thread…??? we are trying to help @samples32 here.

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It would never have occurred to my mother to ask if maybe she was the problem? That’s why I figure @samples32 has already won the war. Now it’s just mop up and rebuilding. :smile:

Pixel.

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What are you feeling there, jukebox? Do you need someone to rage at? Why not rage at those who did you dirty? Instead of those who don’t actually mean anything one way or the other.

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Bingo.
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I just see you guys making light of a situation that IS NOT under control…samples was thinking about taking her life…just because you think she’s not got a problem doesn’t mean she in actuality doesn’t. I am not raging. I just don’t like someone ignoring the initial premise of a thread.

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I’m okay now I think, @jukebox, let them derail it, it’s no harm.

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Try bible study,it will lift your spirits, and make the voices go away.

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I think we were – in a roundabout fashion – expressing admiration for the self-awareness you’ve shown by acknowledging the problems you’re dealing with and your willingness to take the necessary steps to resolve them.

My mom was not a good mom. I’m pleased to tell you that you’re totally NOT my mom.

So there!

:heart:

Pixel.

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cc: @samples32

Ditto. 15 15 15

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God bless your ma

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The nice thing in life is that YOU decide what to make of it. You can decide not to follow your parents’ footsteps. You canmake your kidshave a better life than you had. I know this because I have done it!

I grew up in an abusive home. My father used fear and terror to rule the family. I have broken “family tradition”. I am there for my kids 100% of my ABILITY to be there. I can tell my kids I’m tired and need to rest. I rest a lot. Or that I am sad. But it is not because of them. Sometimes you get sad for no reasons. You can explain for your kids in different ways depending on the age. A 5 yearold just needs to hear you are sad and maybe they want to cuddle to make you feel better. A teenager might need more information about your depression or sz.

I’m playing with open cards at home. And it works.

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@samples32, how long have you been off meds now? If that’s still the case.

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Samples one day in the future when you’ve got you first grandchild in your arms you’ll be so glad you were brave and kept going. Have faith and stick it out.

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3 to 4 months. 151515

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I hate meds, we all hate meds. But at least consider going back on them if the alternative is worse. The way I, and others here learned that meds were needed was by coming off them. I wish you luck in whatever decision you make.

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Well, I was like this on meds. I have been suicidal since puberty. The only thing meds did was help psychosis and anxiety.

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