If your not there, you can’t answer any of their questions.
Kids NEED a mom (just not an abusive one)
The simple fact that you think your less than an ideal parent for your kids makes me believe you ARE indeed a good parent,
because rotten parents rarely question their parenting skills, they justify them instead without ever considering their kids feelings.
I understand. It’s just that you have picked up some things that you could build upon to ensure that your children are "protected,: as well as to move yourself “upscale.”
Diana Baumrind’s “patenting styles,” John Bowlby’s “attachment theory,” and Erik Erickson’s “stages of development,” for example. Incredibly empowering stuff for a mother. They can all be Googled easily.
■■■■ you. get off this thread. I don’t care about what you like or don’t.
You are right @csummers, I really just want to be better. Children are just so delicate. You rarely know which of your actions are going to stick in their little brains forever. I just wish I was perfect for them. They deserve it.
yes you’re right @Csummers thanks.
Kids don’t want or need a “perfect” mother…they just want them to love them.
Erik Erickson as in conservative talk show host guy?
I do love them. With every fiber.
Then that is all they need. Just make sure they know it.
The rest will work itself out in the long run.
A horrible parent wouldn’t even be asking these questions. You’ve already won the battle. Now you just have to win the upcoming skirmishes.
You can do this! 
Pixel.
What if I get older and turn into my mother? I know my mother has turned.into her mother.
Heavens no. This EE: http://image.slidesharecdn.com/chapter4-130914163304-phpapp02/95/psy-150-403-chapter-4-slides-68-638.jpg?cb=1379176722
That only happens when the daughter is largely unconscious and/or unwilling to see, hear and feel what is. Those who face the music – as I so often see you doing – are far less likely to fall into Nancy Friday’s My Mother, My Self trap.
Thats on you. …
I’ve seen his stuff. Actually, I saw his stuff when I was looking up the other Erik Erickson.
I just want to hide…
just keep being the sweet loving mother I know that you have inside you. Nurture the good, ignore the bad…you will accomplish great things I believe. good luck.
From? What we feel? I hid for decades. And I suffered for decades from it.
It was all so easy to handle when I found out how.
Any mother who really gets Baumrind, Bowlby and Erikson (maybe Piaget and Kohlberg, as well) will raise functional children.
Diana Baumrind & Parenting Styles (thought there are now two more accepted parenting styles, “neglectful / abandoning” and “confusing.”)
Attachment Theory In Psychology Explained I don’t know if you like Alanis Morissette or not, but she is all over attachment mothering. (I expect to hear about it in her seminar at Esalen in August.)
Bwaaaahaahaaaa!!! My mom had a Masters in Social Work and was working towards a PhD when she passed. One of those people who could fix any problem but her own. You’ve seen me in action, right?
Sorry, but that was funny.
Pixel.
