Even if they had a pretty good life.
That seems to always be the goal.
Have them succeed where you failed.
It’s easy to forget in their newness that they are humans and will do what the ■■■■ they want,
Regardless of your efforts.
Do you feel like you’ve done better than your parents?
And I don’t just mean financially.
There are so many other ways.
And if you have children,
What do you hope they learned from you?
My parents both grew up wealthier than me, but they never pursued education. I would like to think that being educated has helped them see things with more confidence.
In terms of achievement and status I’ll never match my late father. The only one who comes anywhere near to him achievement wise is my sister. I try to be the best person that I can. To help others in the best way I can.
I just hope that my kids learned empathy from me, learned how to be kind and non judgmental.
As far as education and quality of life I’ve done better.
My parents lived through WW2 literally at their doorstep
They have experienced very hard times.
I don’t think I have done better but I know my values are different than theirs.
Yes, I’ve done better, just not financially.
My daughter is allowed to express her feelings and have her own opinions. I’m there for her when she needs me. We’re close and hang out regularly. I never abandoned her.
There is no way I could live up to my parents achievement’s
My dad wants me to have the life he has had which is a very morally correct life with a wife and a career
My parents are very critical, I forgot to take out the trash last night and it was 4am when I remembered and my mom said “no you are not going out at 4am in the morning it is to dangerous” I mean really, just so cautious to let me drag the cans out to the end of the driveway
My dad has provided me with all my wants and needs as his son
As much as I want to shame them as hypocrites I don’t see any realistic reason to dare
I am now there caretaker and I try to Honor them the best I can, but I know I fall short and deep down inside me I am trying
My dad is also extremely critical
@Dude1
It’s very depressing
Financially, I’ve not been doing excellent like my parents did. Japan was in bubble economy in the 80s, and was really easy to get a job. Now, many people are working under terrible environment. Would I be motivated to get a job? No, as I can live with my parents with the disability pension. But the fact that my parents were top-notch business person can be a pressure sometimes. Not that much, since they can take care of themselves when they get even older, and I wouldn’t have to take care of them financially.
Some parents are jealous if their child is more successful than them or happier.
Maybe they are not their real parents in da soul then.
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