Is there something wrong with me ?I crave his company i really like him but rest difficult … apparently according to pdoc it’s psychological issues from bullying in school…Should I do him a favour and just end it
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@anon80629714 lots and lots of people run into difficulties regarding sex in relationships. It is very normal. If you like the guy that is the most important thing.
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@anon80629714 it sounds like it may well be a temporary thing. Don’t blame yourself or feel bad about it.
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Ps @anon80629714. I think you can get counselling specifically geared towards matters involving sex on the nhs - should you wish to go down that route.
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I’ve been married to my ideal mate for nearly 18 years. We haven’t had real intercourse in 18 months. Oral for him 4 times in that period. I just haven’t been interested until lately.
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Like @anon35166066 was saying u can get counselling for it if you think it’s something ud still want to do, it may help
And I suppose it also depends on how he feels about it how important that is to him.
And maybe with time ud feel different about it as u grow closer to him, I dunno, maybe not though.
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I have been in relationship with my gf for over 4 years and I had satysfying sex only several times. Our sex life is far from ideal to me. I think if she lose weigh it should improve our sex life. I used to have psychological issues about her as well but it got better.
Hey, you’re two adults, you can have any relationship between you two that you want. But he needs to know how you stand on the sex thing. If he wants the relationship to go on without ever having sex that’s his choice. But he needs to know what he’s getting into.
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We’ve had that discussion. I asked him if it bothered him. He said it’s part of a relationship but’s not all of what a relationships about. Plus when we started dating I told him I thought I was asexual he didn’t know what that meant but he said he will read about it. Even suggested the possibility I might be demisexual. And I sort of sgree. I really need to like the person whole get to know them before I can think of such thing.
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I can only relate from sz. When I’m sick I don’t even think about persuing anyone. I believe it’s quite common.
Maybe you’re not ready to have sex yet- I think communicating with your partner will be the best, tell him why having sex with him is difficult. I think he will understand, and maybe you could do something other sexual activity other than the penetrative sex. If you are not interested at the moment, maybe you could go out on a date- such as, to a good restaurant, or to a park where you could talk with him and spend some time with him.
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