No. You pay more.
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Some do business deal marriages such as a woman “onr who had roll of “father” x “ married a plastic surgeon and made business deal that he gives her a fortune monthly allowances and free surgery and free holidays and fancy dinners and real estate and if they divorced she gets millions and as long as they are married all she has to do is attend fancy dinners with academic people and host parties and be entertaining and look good to his friends and clients etc and she gets all that .
She didn’t even have to have sex with him only look good and feel good at fancy dinners as his perfect wife ….
She was a gold digger not kind who digs for real gold such as almost extinct species or saving trafficked holy onr or digging for true beaut real gold people but gold digger in selfish all that matters is me me me feeling look good etc and all my friends are same frame of mind …
She said she would never date a man unless he gave her a fortune .
I always thought loyalty and true care and true golden people and safe space to be true selves together etc more important.
And also humble that some true golden people may have been slaves or trafficked or abused or tortured and they deserve love if they true beauts way more than the fake gold diggers do …..
Marriage is too much paper work n beauracracy and I’m not a member of any religion .
Sometimes a marriage can save someone from slavery or abusive family or bullying or poverty and true love be found there too and true selves be free to exist .
Marriage can be good n it can be bad .
But I don’t like it mostly .
Rare circumstances I can find it holy and awesome and liberating and freedom not possession etc
Possible it can give protection and safe haven for some .
Some gentle ones who can’t defend selves may find safe haven in partner who provide safe space love protection and space to feel like n be true self and real connection and love and freedom not possession n good stuff .
If you can’t defend yourself against millions or more doesn’t mean you suck at self defence maybe there’s so many of them n uou be rare ….
Some see it as a status thing which kinda sucks like your worth more and respectable if married n ya ain’t if ya not .
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I love being married to my husband. We don’t get any financial breaks, but I love that we officially committed to each other for life. We eloped so getting married wasn’t expensive at all.
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What does eloped mean?
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I realize times have changed, but being born out of wedlock made aspects of my childhood difficult. It was important to me to be married to a person I was committed to and my wife felt the same way. Our marriage is important to us, even if we bump along in the dark with it sometimes.
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I had a good night with my wife tonight after the start of this thread. Communication is everything, IMO. We discussed various things and I am feeling much more confident that this marriage is going to be a good thing in the long run. And much better than my single life. I know its not for everyone, but I think…I hope, it was the right choice for me.
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I’ve never been married. I am in a 13-year relationship, but my girlfriend’s ex-husband was a really bad guy so she wants him to keep making the alimony payments.
Some people marry for religious reasons, but there’s also financial and legal benefits to being married. There’s too many to list, but having the ability to file a joint tax return is financially advantageous for most people. Also, married couples have a better chance than most individuals to be approved for a car loan or mortgage, and employee benefits tend to favor married employees, such as adding your spouse to your workplace healthcare benefits.
As an aside, many LGBTQ people fought for many years for the right to marry, so they thought it was important.
Thus some couples will choose to get married, and some couples will choose not to get married. There is no right or wrong answer.
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It means we left town and got married on our own at a courthouse. We didn’t have any friends but my mom and step dad were there. There was no big wedding or reception
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Marriage is good if there’s no expectation, true love is never a transaction.
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I’m so glad 
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Grass is usually always greener on the other side.
I’ll be honest, sometimes I think about what it would be like to be single again…
But when I was single, I daydreamed about being married lol
Can’t ever win.
Anyways, I love my husband and couldn’t imagine him not being around, so.. there’s that too.
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I really think it depends on the person, whether or not it’s good to be married.
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I’ve been 22 years together with my spouse but we are not married. No need to, we have no children. I don’t dream of a princess day of having a wedding, never have. I like our relationship as it is.
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for me, I will always be married…and I won’t be alone very long in between marriages either.
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I think as long as you’re not alone; it shouldn’t really matter if you’re married or not. It’s just a preference on a personal part.
Being alone (lonely) however; is not a good thing imo
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All I know is that my marriage failed.
I was better off not getting married to my abusive ex wife.
Lessons learned.
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My personal experience of marriage is physical and sexual abuse so, to me, it’s better to not be married.
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Me neither. 15151515
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I personally never want to marry. I don’t see a purpose to it as someone who is not religious. I also require a lot of down time and personal space. I would find living with other people quite tricky as I love my own company and like having my own walls. So for me getting the law involved in belonging to someone seems fruitless.
That said, I’m very happy that other people can find partners that they feel like they want to spend the rest of their lives with.
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Well said @TheCanuk
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