i wish i could do a poll but i don’t know how. 
Married with kids
Married without kids
Single with kids
Single without kids??
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i think married without kids.
I have a very few people in my life to compare this too. I don’t have a big social aspect.
I think if you find the right person. Being married would be wonderful. you still could have and persue your own goals and activities but grow as a couple. after that i would say being single. i really enjoy kids a lot but i think they are stressful on a marriage and money wise expensive and i think too you can’t pursue any of your own hobbies because you take care of the kids. But i am single and have never had kids so i’m sure it might be a different aspect to it.
Right now, I would be married with kids. My perspective before I got married would be single without kids.
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I may be totally wrong here and let me know honestly what you think. I just feel like sometimes motherhood is overrated? You give up so much. sometimes your husband doesn’t give up half as much as you do. but again. i’m not a mother. but i was a mother to a special needs dog and it was hard.
As a sza and maybe even without this, I find marriage too daunting, but I think having a partner is nice. Kids no sadly. But like u said it has its pros… More money to spend on self, less stress, …
I’ve been really sad bout not having kids recently.
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i feel like as a single person you have freedom. especially if your well and can purse a career and meet others and hobbies.
I would prefer to have my soul mate though.
i think sometimes married people don’t want to admit the problems with having kids and being committed like the difficulties that comes with. It also can make you dependent on someone more where if you single although it’s harder i think you grow more as a individual. Marriage is kind of a status thing in the USA.
i’m not harping on marriage. I would like to get married hopefully. I just feel sometimes that married people envy single people more than they let on.
im single without kids. it’s ok but I would prefer to have a women. I’ve had enough me time.
also sometimes I think I would like a kid, but it adds a lot more responsibility. I don’t think i’d be the greatest dad when they are little, I have nieces and nephews but I’ve never changed a diaper. I think once the kid was past the diapers stage I would enjoy it.
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I don’t know what’s best. Some people are happier married or having a partner. Some people are happier single.
I think we all love the idea of being with someone. But the reality can be very different. The wrong person can make you very unhappy indeed.
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The grass is always greener on the other side
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There was a recent study that showed unmarried women with no kids were the happiest.
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I’m a divorce and have kids. I don’t have to put with a wife problems. I can devote as much time as I can with the kids. Less stress and emotional pain.
I’m female, long time divorced and without any kids or grandkids and I’m supremely happy and content. And have been for a very long time now. I think this research is right on.
I think it depends on the person. Some people are happiest single, some happiest with just a partner and some are happiest with a partner and children.
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nobody has it best. life is what you make it
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Love that! 
some people have it better than others. i envy the people on here that don’t hallucinate for example. life is what you make of it. But some people do have it better than others.
i also envy the people where medication works for them to take the hallucinating away.
look at people in extreme poverty or worn torn countries. They might have a better attitude than a lot of americans and make the best of what they have. But americans no matter their income level, if they hallucinate or not, or illness would probably have it better.
anna’s right though it probably depends on the person.
I’m happiest being married. My husband is my best friend in the world. I don’t know how I would get by without him. He’s everything to me.
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Ten years ago I thought being a single with a kid would be happiest , and now after having made huge improvment to my marriage I would say being married with a kid is happiest. I think I am lucky.