Is beginning ballet classes stupid as an overweight 41 year old?

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I’m not convinced i can take this dream seriously

I want to do ballet classes with an aim of being able to dance en pointe.

I don’t have the body for it… i’m obese almost by BMI, I don’t have the feet for it … middle aged bunions… I don’t have the strength for it, although under the flab is a great yoga body…

It is an impossible. It is something i should not aspire towards because i’m sure i will get the “big I am” over this or some kind of reverse the “big I am.”

I feel like i would worry about people thinking i was better than them or posing ridiculously like a dancer (i have schizophrenia with Aspergers Syndrome as a huge other disability.)

I am not great socially - i have few social skills, i dance badly because i have two left feet. As in i go the wrong way when everyone goes the other way and i can’t remember moves and have a bad back.

I just enquired and i just told my husband for the first time…

I never wanted to do ballet, so i didn’t do it… now i want to ballet dance and i think i will try it.

I have no way of accessing a perfect body by snapping my fingers… I’d like to start a blog here? anyone know how i can do that?

Or is this like self harming?

I don’t know if i have ever wanted anything - like yoga - i wanted to be like my teacher… unattainable she is an Alpha Athlete

I wanted to be like my aunt and be marathon ready at the drop of a hat, but my running only lasted 5 years because after half marathon ready for a year, i got bored and gave up

how could i chose anything more difficult or sorrowful or pointless obsession

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I wish we lived closer together, I would go with you. I’ve always wanted to learn ballet.

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I was a fat cheerleader. Be prepared for a lot of criticism and ridicule. Would these be private lessons? That would be less risky.

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My son with Down syndrome did ballet more recently,
I signed him up, though it was a mix up and they didn’t know

we were coming, so we had to join the young girls in their class,
and you should have felt the tension and resistance,

but it turned out ok in the end, though my family said he shouldn’t be doing it,
and that he doesn’t even like it, he has seen many performances though,

with me, and my daughter.

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I’m thinking of having a few private lessons over the summer… it’s like i thought about the overweight thing and hope to lose before the Autumn season _ but a perfect body is far away.
i think the whole school runs from school holidays, and they do use church halls type of thing - it’s not London - and i am hoping that at those times it would only be peers who would see me
I hope that would make it okay

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That’s a shame turtle… I’d like that

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How is he doing now? x

The tension and resistance of the other dancers?

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The ridicule and criticism was from peers.

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Well, just the young girls being taught to be graceful, and my son
being untaught, but trying which did win them over.

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I know - i mean i just hope that 25 - 60 year olds in a church hall would be more welcoming than high school cheerleaders or semi professional teens

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We would hope for more maturity with time, yes.

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I have no idea - maybe there isn’t much hope for that but i don’t know at all

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I say give it a try, but keep your expectations low. That way if you do good at it you will be pleasantly surprised. If you do badly it won’t hurt as much.

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I’ve seen adult classes in various things, but i guess the nature of ballet - like cheerleeading is not kind

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With such a high ceiling of what is possible to achieve (if you are a beginner as a toddler) I think disappointment is inevitable… no matter how high my expectations of about myself I will not match up

I know this.

I know that it has kept me active for 5 years x2 or more really - with revisiting yoga and running 3 - 4 x 2 -3 hours every week for 5 yrs…

just by having an impossible goal

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Wishing you enjoyment.

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Thanks for these 2 :slight_smile:️

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I think you should do it. It reminds me of this guy.

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sounds positive… i think u should go for it!

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