Do you ever have irritable thoughts from just being around another person? I seem to peak in irritability around my step mother. I also seem to think less and be more emotionally reactive to things.
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Some people do trigger me from time to time.
Usually I will tell them face to face because if I donât I will fester with the feeling for hours, maybe all day.
Other times, when Iâm feeling Iâve got a grip, I will walk away and take my chances that I wonât let it bother me
Yes⌠itâs only two specific people who just irritate meâŚ
one of my younger brothers and one of my Aunts⌠I hate being around themâŚ
It usually takes much longer for me to be irritated with other people.
Everyone gets irritable around me, that plays a big part in me moving around constantly.
Such is life.
I never stop to think if I irritate others⌠Iâm sure I do⌠but I donât usually think about it.
I know this feeling all too well, Apathy. Especially when it comes to the part when you feel like youâre thinking less and more emotionally reactive. While it doesnât happen too much for me, itâs definitely very frustrating when a particular person is triggering this irritability.
I have the same problem too, when I get irritated by people, Daze. But usually Iâll end up apologizing later on.
I live with people who are irritated by all things at all times for any reason.
Itâs irritating.
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As contentious as it may sound, no one triggers me. I trigger myself. That doesnât mean that there arenât people who act in ways my values donât care for. But itâs my appraisal of what they do (according to my values and beliefs) that set me off, not what the others do. If I insist that others behave a certain way, they donât, and I get upset, whoâs hurt and why? Not them. I may still react, but if I take responsibility for those reactions ASAP, I donât have to go on being upset about it.
See MBBT â https://www.newharbinger.com/blog/introduction-mind-body-bridging-i-system
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I get irritability a lot round others usually when Iâm anxious and want yo rest and have peace and quiet
You can just anticipate it with some peopleâŚThey have their quirks, they are toxic or they are on your âto be avoidedâ list. Other approach is sound interested in person kinda, let them talk and you never say muchâŚThese LOVE to talk about self.
Could also treat them like an appointment, keep busy during whole thing like cook or clean, never ask more than âhow are youâ and this is rhetorical for you so âiâm find thanksâ ONLY. Just let all the insults roll right off of you. Leave with excuse at planned timeâŚWhen your parents get so old you need to help them, set up appointments for them and just keep silent during all the insults about your sibling being âbetter than youâ - sibling that needs money every month, does nothing for them and wants to borrow their vehicle all the time tooâŚYou know how this goesâŚ
You could also consider talking about your problems as just reliving it and intensifying it, unless it is something you need help with like transportation to PDOC or someone to go to store for you due to anxietyâŚJust go out and party, let the friends talk, offer to help or at least ask about stuff later â makes great friends this wayâŚ
You can just decide you arenât going to let the person bother you eitherâŚBest to NEVER say this about anyone wealthy, questionable or abusive, just do not return contact attempts and avoid them without talking behind back except for your spouse if you need a team approach to manage a threatâŚ
Some people also just do not give a damn about you, especially if your credibility has been ruined by mental illness. Some of these will even mess you up if they start to insult you loudly verbally when they meet you out in public so consider it a good sign this is someone to quietly ditch and avoid.
It happens to me all the time, around certain people. Usually for no particular reason. By certain people I donât mean anyone in particular, but itâs not everybody and I donât always know the person.
When I travel by bus for instance if the bus remains stationary I get irritable and want the bus to go
My symptoms are worse when iâm sitting still.I hate stoplights
yesâŚit is normal.
but it is important to find an outlet for your frustrations⌠
otherwise you will â dump â on someone else because you have not released your irritability.
take care 
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@shellys12. Iâm like that.
Agreed. No one can make you upset, only yourself.
My brother and his wife are usually triggers for me.
They lead a very angry , materialistic, shallow life style - their crap spills over onto me - very toxic people.
I just got off of the phone with my brother, he puts me in a bad mood 99% of the time.
I usually try to say as little as possible when he talks to me - I try to shut him out as much as possible.
Thatâs not the truth though. There are people who make me very upset, like the â â â â â â â who slept with my girlfriend and nearly killed me a year ago, my biological father who abused me as a child, I canât be around them. Itâs not good for me to even think about them.
They upped my meds. Now Iâm antsy. Iâve taken three walks today & bathed twice. Buspar (anti anxiety) helps a little.
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Buspar was my â â â â . I was taking it âas neededâ. You cant take too much though or youâre tarded. I found that out the âhard wayâ.