Inability to defend myself cost me a lot

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Not being able to stand up for myself against bullies and my 0 self confidence is costing me dearly

Does anyone know if its due sz or a personality defect?
Do you have a similar issue?

on top of that the inability to communicate clearly is a combination that led me to a very bad place right now

My new boss was racist aggressive and unrespectful I could report him but I just decided to ignore although I was super anxious 24/7

Unfortunately this fired back on me and I was fired due to reports he’s sending to the management about my poor performance although my performance was great unless of being late sometimes which is not a reason to get fired especially in this company where everyone is coming late

I wish I could defend myself someday

Wish you best

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Yes, I have the same problem. I never get angry, even though the situation gets out of hand and I need to get angry.

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Exactly, You took the words out of my mouth

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If someone is targeting you at work then you need to talk to management. Your boss sounds like an a-hole.

There are ways in dealing with this constructively!

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I can’t defend myself well cos I’m afraid of conflict, in particular at work. It’s really stressful. I find it difficult to cope when people don’t like me at work. I need to learn to be more assertive

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@Speedy just what like @Zoe I am too afraid of conflict

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Can’t you send a letter to management so you can explain what’s going on?

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I think sz and probably past experience with bullies has a lot to do it.

I only had one boss who was a total ■■■■■. Guess my need for money made me put up with her.

And she eventually fired me for calling off, coming in late but the official reason was poor job performance. My attention span sucked so I was always screwing up.

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Too late now
I left the company With all the sorrow and oppression one month ago @Speedy

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It would be good to see a therapist about your anger issues. Also if you can pick up a martial art, like Muay Thai or something?

Which meds are you on?

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Rexulti 3 mg
Seroquel 50 mg

Unfortunately I am too fat for practicing martial arts
But I will consider talking to a therapist although I dont think this will help much but I will try

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How much do you weigh?

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139-140 KGs
Not sure how much in pounds @Speedy

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That’s a lot.

It’s really weird that some are quick to anger while some don’t experience it at all.

But it could be a side- effect of schizophrenia, I dunno?

I know meds dull the mind. I’m on olanzapine and it has slowed down my mind a lot. I rarely get angry.

I’m also on vraylar and it has actually made me more aggressive. Maybe if you can try vraylar instead of rexulti??

I wish I could come off olanzapine. :frowning:

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Before sz I weighed 65 KGs
Thats more than 100% increase
My doctor suggested gastric sleeve but I am too hesitant to do it !
Of course he suggested after a long time of combatting the weight gain using different methods
Dieting ,exercising etc.

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I’m about 102kg. I have gained about 30kg since I started olanzapine.

What’s a gastric sleeve? Is it surgery? Sounds dangerous?

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Vraylar will be considered if this issue continued
But why did you choose to switch to olanzapine?

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Ya it sounds and actually it is dangerous but its a life saving surgery for some people who are too morbidly obese
maybe I will consider it if I reach 160 KGs which is very unlikely cause its too damn dangerous especially for mentally ill people like us

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I’m on both olanzapine and vraylar! I need it because I get symptomatic without it.

Yeah, try vraylar out. Perhaps it can help you? Although there is one annoying side- effect, namely heartburn. I had to buy medication for heart burn because I was waking up in the middle of the night because of acid reflux.

Report back on how the vraylar is working out for you!

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Great :+1:
I will talk with my doctor soon
Thanks

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