I'm trying out this new thing

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Not gonna lie…

I’ve never been an honest/straightforward person…

I would always lie a bit to avoid hurting people’s feelings.

So, I’m gonna try out this new thing called “honesty”

For example-

My dear friend invited my family to her toddlers birthday party… But they’re having it at this bounce house/activity place for kids.. not sure how to describe it..

Anyways, I looked at reviews of the place and they are not good…

It’s also an hour away and in a sketchy area..

Neither my husband or I want to go because of those things.

Normally I’d fib and come up with a BS excuse why we can’t make it…

But I’m thinking I should just be honest and tell her…

I’m still worried about hurting her feelings tho lol and I don’t want to make her second guess her choice in party location…

Idk…

:person_shrugging:

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Maybe you can just not lie but not be so straightforward with the answer? Idk Im not good with people

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Yeah… I’m not good with people either haha.

@Rainstorm

Never know how people will react.

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I’d go Rambo mode and clean the whole area of any potential dangers before the party.

Joke :face_with_peeking_eye:

Yeah, you may express concern about the venue, there’s nothing wrong with putting safety first.

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That’s a tough one

I understand your willingness to be honest to your friend, but I also understand not wanting to hurt her feelings

maybe you could say “I’ll be honest, driving and being in ‘insert sketchy area here’ makes me very anxious.” And tell her you appreciate her invite and that you guys can get together somewhere soon.

idk, I’m not good with these either lol

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Hah!

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It’s a struggle.

I’m waiting on my sister to call me so I can ask her opinion :joy:

She’s super good with social stuff lol…

Pretty sad at my age to be needing advice on this :joy:

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Sounds like a good idea!

No worries, you’re not the only one who struggles with this stuff lol

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Can’t you tell them that the place got bad reviews? Then you don’t have to lie!?

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I just worry that it will make her second guess her party location… Ya know.

I imagine she had to have looked at reviews, but maybe not.

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I will try nothing

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Stick to the truth. Honesty works. If people dont get it at first give it some time because they usually come around.

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In this case I don’t think that you should be totally honest.
It could hurt her feelings.

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Yeah…

I consulted with my sister (lol)

And she also said in this instance I should just come up with some other excuse..

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Tell her you were in the same area as the party last week and that you got jumped by thugs who all had switchblades.

LOL.

Nah, I would just come up with a “white lie” as they call them. Nothing too exact though.

Sorry I kind of suck with these situations too. I don’t like letting people down either. I had to let a friend down recently when he needed help doing laundry he hadn’t done for half a year. I declined because he told me it might have bugs in it. Forget that noise. :crazy_face:

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honesty is good, but is it really that important in this case ? I agree with @Wave and your sister, if you dont have to upset anyone at what i would call something trivial then its best to avoid upsetting.

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