This is my grandmother constantly all day everyday, I don’t know a day or time when she doesn’t talk about wanting to go… She is 98 and seen a lot, but its very hard to see because the drs don’t do anything.
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I had a great aunt that died a little over a year ago. She was 93 and tired of life too. A lot of people get that way in their very old age. I imagine it gets old having to use a walker and whatnot to get around and not being able to do things that you use to. Plus, I can see getting bored of life period at that age.
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My grandmother in law is the same way. I don’t live with her, but I see her a few times a week and talk to her sometimes. She’s always perseverating on the past and saying she’s done living and ready to die. I get being lonely, but I don’t think it’s healthy to just be waiting to die. I feel bad for her so I try to do what I can to make her happy.
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3 of her kids gone due to cancer and a 4th one just diagnosed but we haven’t told her… i don’t know if she can take much more.
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I have to use a walker or wheelchair to get around and can’t do a lot of things I used to. Guess I should get ready to die.
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We try, but its very difficult and she annoys me a lot… doesn’t mean I don’t care but sometimes i just don’t know what to do for her to stop hating on me
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It’s exhausting for sure. I think I’m able to handle it better because I’m not actually related and I used to work in group homes so I’m kind of used to it. My mother in law and father in law get a lot more annoyed with her then I do. I think it’s because they hear it more often.
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Well, I didn’t say everyone had that attitude but I’m quite sure some people do because she expressed it. She also fell many times and broke ribs in her later years.
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Yes, people are very quick to judge how we do things. I was told to ignore her by my aunt when she says things to me, but 5 minutes later when my grandmother said something my aunt kicked off at her… it’s really tough but I think sometimes the age gap doesn’t make it easy either.
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I say do what you have to do to keep a healthy mindset. If that’s avoiding her most of the day, do it. If that’s calling her out when she’s being mean, do it. If that’s just letting her grump and ignoring it, do that. It’s hard to be in that situation all day every day. Do what you need to do to keep your own mental health in check.
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When I say quick to judge, I meant quick to judge how often she showers. Sometimes she doesn’t want to and we can’t force her. But my mum showers her 3 to 4 times a week but she is very obese and its hard for mum to lift her and what not.
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If they want to judge, tell them they’re free to offer help.
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Ahaha thats funny, we asked her to come to a hospital appointment for her as my mum was busy and me at work… she said she needed to go to the temple.
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Screw that. She just wants to complain and not help? She’s gets zero room. Just keep telling her she can help anytime if she’s got a problem.
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She complains a lot, i just ignore her , its easier over the pandemic.
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