My husbands ex wife left him and took all the money. He lost his job too. He had nice clothes and a phone but was literally starving. He had to go dumpster diving. It took him a while to get back on his feet.
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Yeah I give to a shelter/ suip kitchen sometimes.
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They have cellphones cause itās 2022 and still need to be reached somehow by social security services or maybe make calls to get out of their situation. He is wearing nice clothes to have some sort of dignity.
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How rude that she did that!
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I was the breadwinner in my last relationship. That doh doh head could have gotten a better job but he had me to pay his way. He was too comfortable.
Now he and his second wife live in her motherās house rent free. Heās 42 and has never stood on his own two feet. Heās never been without a job but damn.
He never put a dime of his money into our savings account which is what we used for our vacation money. So I paid everything on our vacations. It makes me mad to this day.
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I learned to give them a wide berth when I visited France. Didnāt want to get stabbed.
I had nice clothes and an expensive watch when I first became homeless. Nothing I had left was nice by the end of being homeless. The watch was stolen by other homeless.
Thatās what you think. Did you know that you can trade food for drugs with many pushers? Thatās what I saw on the streets. I only give money to charities that I know work effectively with the homeless and that I also know have low overhead. Thatās pretty much the Salvation Army. You canāt find a more effective charity here.
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A girl I used to work with paid cash for food stamp cards. Sheād give someone $25 for a $50 card(example). Theyād give her the PIN number. Theyād use that cash for drug money. We made good money at that job. Idk what her issue was.
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She has a hole in her soul.
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Youāre right about that. She was a messed up girl. I havenāt seen her in years.
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I agree @anon53623539. I was trying to say you can have a phone and decent clothes but still be in dire need of money
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My inclination is always to hand out money. I figure itās not my responsibility to determine what they spend it on; I did my part by giving what I could. I donāt see homeless arround here, though. We have a neat center that operates a soup kitchen and stuff like that, which is great for a small town, and I volunteer for the education part of their program.
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Iām with @Naarai
I donāt give money to the homeless because many of them will use it to buy drugs or booze.
I am more willing to give them some coffee or food.
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I donāt give to homeless or charity, but I always vote liberal or socialist. I think charity is regressive.
If I see homeless who is drug addict, I give him more money, so they wonāt have to struggle more for fix.
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I used to give some of them money but Iāve seen the same faces too many times. Now I give to Shelter every month and I walk past them in the street when they try to give me a guilt trip.
I agree with what youāre saying to an extent. But how do you know theyāre actually a drug addict just looking at them?. There may be a few like that. They may have the eyes. But they may also be in recovery. Just struggling and still homeless.
I gave money to a kid who asked me for money for a blunt. He said he was homeless and asked for $5 for a blunt. I gave him $6 and bought him a cigar in the store too to be nice. Nice kid. Never saw him again after that.
A couple other times I gave money to homeless. But usually I donāt. But sometimes I do regret not giving money or offering anything.
My friend corrupted me with the mindstate āeven if they are homeless they make $100 a day panhandling around hereā. Doesnāt mean I shouldnāt contribute maybe.
Now I donāt see homeless people anymore in my area. But for a while it was just part of my every day routine.
One guy I gave a big stack of quarters to once. He was really happy. But next time he was expecting more I was in a rush to work and said sorry. But he seemed a bit entitled to my money. No still worked.
Itās a tough thing to say really. Chances are they need the money more than me. Still gotta define a line tho.
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I give money to a lot of homeless people or people asking for money on the street.
If they want to spend it on drugs,
Thatās their prerogative.
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I give the homeless people money once in a while, i dont care if they use my money on drugs or alcohol, i guess they are in more need than me since they humiliate themselves despite the contempt they meet from other people.
Instead of giving them a small amount regularly I give them a big amount on occasion (about 10 dollars).
I donāt know if i do it for their sake or because i feel good every time i do it, and i guess they dont mind if i āuseā them to feel i did a good deed.
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I tried to give a homeless guy a Subway sandwich the other night but he refused it.
I donāt give homeless people money regularly but occasionally I will give someone a few bucks. I donated to our local charities that feed the homeless over the holidays. When I lived downtown in the board & care a few years ago I regularly gave to the homeless. We had a large population of homeless and I was on friendly terms with a few of them. They were friendly even when I didnāt give them money but they were probably counting on money the next time they saw me.
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@Jonnybegood, Iāve volunteered for 8 years before covid dealing with, poor, homeless, dirty etcā¦
Kinda developed sense for what they need and for what.
Once in kitchen Iāve seen people coming for food, same every day, with dirty jeans they worn.
I asked them do they need a cloth cleaner and they reacted āHey man, we doā
I bought a bag and divided it in smaller bags, and gave to ones they neededā¦
I plan to organize a shelter after covid in my area so the poor could get food and clothesā¦
Iāve already have posibility for getting food from kitchen, just need a place for it.
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