Im 30 and my parents still dont treat me right. To be fair, they dont treat anybody right. The way they relate to people makes me sick. My dad will make fun of you subtly and say mean things and then when yoyre upset hell treat toy like its all in toyr head and like yoyre the problem for being upset. He walks all over my.boundaries and definitely has shown he knows hes doing it but doesnt care. My mom is constantly caught up in drama and only puts other people down. She always redirects everything to be about her. Both of them disprove of my gender identity, my sexuality, even me dating people outside of my race. I am tired of arguing with them about basic human rights and respect. I am tired of hearing how they talk to my nieces and nephew, who theyre raising because my brother is just as traumatized as me and cant handle being a father to his 3 kids. My dad said why are YOU alienating US. Take a look in the mirror. Youre alienating yourself.
My dad constantly tries to tell me what i should and shouldnt be doing. How i should think. Hes convinced me to go off meds before and tells me frequently i am.not mentally ill or autistic. When i called CPS on my brother and his gf a couple years ago my parents treated me so awfully. Especially my.mom. she called me like 20 times that day after i hung up on her because she was being icnredibly mean. Theyd rather enable abuse and neglect. Two of his kids were born addicted. I made the right call. And above all, i will never forgive them for ignoring my very obvious signs of mental illness growing up, ESPECIALLY when i was 13 and tried to commit suicide and thwy just told me.not to do it again and swept it under the rug.
Yeah it’s sad but toxic people are just that even if they are family. I wish you well moving forward with things and hope you sort it all out.
Hopefully someday your parents see how wrong they’ve been about everything. My parents were really awful parents well into my adulthood. Both have drastically changed since then. It happened over time slowly but surely. It is better now. If you’re not living on your own, it might be a good time to come up with a new place to live.
Luckily i live on my own and am on disability. If i lived with them… lets just say it would be reallt reallt bad
I totally get how bad it would be. I’m glad you have your own place. Maybe start setting some boundaries to protect yourself.
I think you are absolutely amazing to be able to identify the ways they have disrespected you then and how they still are disrespecting you now. You come off as very intuitive and self-aware. I don’t know if you came to this on your own or with the help of a therapist but either way, well done. I wish knowing it could change it, but it doesn’t. You’ve done the next best thing and that is get yourself in a position of not being dependent on them.
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