family. Consisting of a 50 year old Cambodian mother and her 21 year old daughter. The mother came to my door begging for help. They were on the street, no car, no home, no sleep for 4 days, all their belongings were piled in a few bags around them. It was late at night. I knew the mother from a couple of years prior when she had been alone and in a similar situation. So, I took them in.
They’ve been staying with me for two days now. They offered me a little money and theyre helping with groceries.
Before they start really settling in, make it clear that your offer of housing and food is only good for a few days…during which time they need to find some kind of government assistance program.
Also, if there is an unstable ex-husband in the shadows this is also something for you to consider.
I think some of you are jumping to conclusions a bit. Yes, it could end badly, but you don’t know the people. They could be great and very trustworthy.
That being said, I think she should take all precautions she can.
And look for more permanent housing for them while they are there.
This woman lived with me before and nothing came amiss of it. Plus she lived with another tenant in the apartment building and he’s never said anything against her to me.
I read everybody’s posts and I think both sides make good points. I think it’s great that you’re helping out this woman and her daughter and it gives you a little company too. Very commendable, but I wouldn’t make it an open ended arrangement, I would set a time limit. You don’t have to necessarily do it right away, maybe let them live there for a little while, like a week or two and then tell them you’ll let them live there an additional couple of weeks or a month or two.
It might be nice for both sides to be clear how long it’s going to last and if it turns out there’s friction or you don’t get along then she will have a definite time limit that you both know she’ll be gone. People mentioned or insinuated that she might steal from you, just take normal precautions and don’t tempt them by leaving money or credit cards laying around. It’s very nice of you though.
The mother is busy cleaning my stovetop drip pans right now. They are absolutely filthy. Haven’t been cleaned in three years. I didn’t know how to remove them from the stove. There’s silver linings on this cloud.
well she is impressive and a hard worker…maybe she could get a green card or something…I didn’t mean to say I didn’t approve…it was just such a BIG step…you must have a good feeling about them…I do now…thank you you are a blessing to them. and kindness is gushing from you.
I gave this family a note telling them that they had 25 min. to vacate because I was going to call the police.
This worked. They left immediately and the police escorted them off the apartment complex property. @Rainstorm@Bowens@jukebox@shutterbug@77nick77@Naarai@Wave@anon31960475
