Saying that is seen as far more acceptable than showing the very few things you’re good at.
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You’re an intellectual individual.
And by those standards, you have the majority beat.
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People can be incredibly ungenerous and even unforgiving when it comes to that sort of thing. In those situations the individual, not the situation or the group dynamics, is almost invariably made to carry the can.
I like your tagline.
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I hate the culture of false humility and self-depracating jokes. People should be allowed to be proud of things they do well, without being called arrogant or braggy.
this is true, I have found, with not talking yourself up,
it’s usually seen as being conceited, not sure why.
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I’m not at all certain as to how false humility would be separated from true humility. For me ‘imposter syndrome’ looms large. There’s a feeling that sooner or later I’ll be exposed as a complete fraud. The intellectual equivalent of the ‘Emperor with no clothes on’.
I think the psychological underpinning for that lies in the teenage years- the bullying,the social rejection,the academic failure-no such things as ‘gifted and learning disabled(US)’ or 2e then, the sense of being inferior etc etc.
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I’ve always felt, just from sz., or for me, single motherhood, that I’ve always had a lot to prove.
Phil does this to me too. I’ve got to prove that I can hold and keep a job, prove I’m well, prove that my word is good.
it does not seem natural. ahh, I’m good enough. I know that I’m good enough.
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It is a tricky thing. For me, I think humility in general is not great, at least the way we see it today. Acknowledging your weak areas and seeking to improve upon them is a great thing to do. But most people view humility as “never admit you are good at something ever” and that mindset teaches people that if they think they are good at something, they should be ashamed of that feeling. It also encourages people to feel ashamed of the things they do poorly, which is just not how people work. Some people are good at some things. Other people are good at other things. When we all work together, we have a society where everyone does what they are good at, and asks for help on the things they aren’t.
I could write a 5 page essay on why we should start letting people celebrate their skills, and valuing those skills.
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I’ve spoken of my weak areas. To some degree lack of self belief is involved, but I’ll never be great when it comes to practical technical things. My non-verbal ability is erratic, to say the least, but has improved from about 75 avg to 118 avg. That’s come from trying not to go into panic mode when something doesn’t come quickly to me. Attitude of mind is important. Something that’s a slow, ongoing process of trying to improve for me.
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Go check my thread about GlobalTop20 it’s really bad but the idea is good
Why don’t you write that essay and submit it to the appropriate magazine editors? Or put it on the internet?
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