If someone was offering to pay all your bills if you came to live with them and all you had to do was just show up what would you do? All you would have to pay is your own food. No more rent or electricity or water or anything. It would mean saying goodbye to all your friends and family and moving to a new city. But that could be good, I mean you could get rid of any stress that way, right? Would you do it? It would be like a fresh start, right?
You aren’t considering joining a Cult now, are you? 
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lol, no. My sister wants to have me come live with her so she can help me get back into shape and get away from all the stress I have in my life. She’s worried about me.
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Unfortunately, I couldn’t live with anyone, despite the admittedly great perks. I’ve been on my own for 20 years and have become very routine-based, with a slight Obsessive Compulsive Disorder. Other people would view me as an absolute nightmare to live with. My pets are quite enough for me.
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It’s a choice only you can make. When the stress of my life was too much, I ran away and started again somewhere new. It worked out really well for me,m eventually, because I found a more supportive and loving environment than the one I had left. But things were really rough for a few months, before I found the right environment and made friends. I spent a lot of nights crying myself to sleep.
What got me through was knowing that I had escaped the abusive/homophobic environment I came from, and that even being alone was better than being back there.
You’ll have your sister as a support, but your sister also has her own life and her own responsibilities. She can’t be your support 24/7. Even if she wants to be, nobody can do that for another person without burning out. You’ll still need other workers/therapists/friends to get you through. Will she help you find those other people?
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Obviously, I don’t know you or your sister, but I think it’s better to be independent. If you can live by yourself and you can do those day-to-day tasks and activities, my advice would be to do it. It’s nice that your family wants to help. But, for your own self-respect and dignity, just try to see if you can do it alone.
She found us a place to live that is within walking distance to the county mental health department so I can access services easily once I’m there. So one of the first things I would do is go there for psychiatric and counseling services.
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That’s a good sign. Do they have a 24 hour crisis line/ drop in center in case you have an emotional emergency at night and she needs to sleep?
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oh I don’t know, I guess I would have to find that out. My current situation doesn’t have that, I would have to go to ER or call a suicide hotline now. I guess that’s what I would do if I had to.
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That’s good. It sounds like you’ve really thought this through. Whatever you decide, I’ll support you.
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Although it wasn’t the exact same scenario, as i had to work and have income, i did go to stay with my brother in another state many years ago. It was nice just to see him, as he has lived there for many years. It was also good to be in a new environment and away from all the familiar stressors that i had going on at the time.
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I’d give it a shot if I were you. I have a similar situation, but I need to wait on it a little while. I’ve visited though, and I love the area I plan on moving to.
Plus you would have your sister around 
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