So I was sitting there drinking my Diet cherry vanilla caffeine free Coke (a favorite that few places sell) by myself and I thought I was minding my own business. I looked up and I just happen to look at a guy three tables away. He immediately got agitated and looked like he was preparing for a fight. Now, it’s possible I unknowingly had a threatening look on my face but I didn’t mean to. So I just thought I put on a more friendlier face to show him that I meant no harm and looked at him again but it made him madder.
I was just trying to relax after my dermatology appointment, I wasn’t looking for trouble. But something kicked in so I started looking hard at him. Probably not the best thing to do but what else am I supposed to do with some guy freaking out on me? But I was looking at him and I just thought, “That idiot. That self important little pissant (one of my late fathers favorite terms)” Nothing happened but I get tired of idiots who get mad at the slightest hint of a wrong look.
When i was a kid i used to get into fights because i thought other kids looked at me weird or maybe they did, i was already mentally ill though and was convinced they were plotting against me and the looks were some sort of signal for their plans, so i thought i was defending myself, but i was just beating up other kids. Not proud of it, but it happened. I also beat up kids who were actually trying to start fights with me, as well as kids beating on other smaller kids. I used to love to fight back then
Not saying that the guy wasn’t glaring at you, but I have this problem in public too. People glare at me, and sometimes it bugs me so much I yell at them! But if I’m with people they say that nobody was glaring at me so maybe I imagine it.
Dunno how I’d imagine people scowling at me though. I have a hard time believing it’s my imagination.
Maybe people are just jealous that we’re so good looking, eh?
This is what I try to explain at the psychiatry office. Imagine you were certain you didnt accidently have a scowl on your face. Then imagine that happening once every 5 minutes every single time you are in a public place.
That is my everyday life.(facial deformity).
me: i feel like an alien. I think if i dressed up in a Kingon suit for grocery shopping, I would still be more accepted. I would not get as many looks of unwanted sympathy, akward moments of people quickly turning their heads away, or looks of disgust and staring.
I just feel isolated be cause I look so different.
psychiatrist: (snickers) I am going on a convention with (other doctor). We look nothing a like. (one is short, mexican, older while one is black, tall, younger). Do people have to look alike for you to be able to relate to them or spend time with them?
I just stared at him probably the same way others stare at me.
Black, mexican, white, asian or what ever kind of people dont get the reactions I do for simply showing up in public. And certainly not as frequently.
I think you’re a great guy, but you have a pattern of thinking that everyone is going to harm you based on vague attributes.
You said the guy was staring at you. How do you know that? Maybe he was looking over your shoulder at the menu board to see if fries were on sale. How do you know he was agitated and looking for a fight? Maybe he was squirming around because he had to pass gas. What makes you think that the guy was “freaking out on me?”
You recently said that @rogueone looks like the type of person you’d be afraid of, but if you’d get to know people who look like him you’d find out that they’re very nice people.
Think of other possibilities as to what is happening.
Don’t sweat it. I see pissed off and mean people all the time. Maybe they’re just having a shitty day. Better them than me. An ■■■■■■■ in every crowd? You’re doing pretty well, you made a lot of positive changes and are working on yourself. Don’t dilute your positive energy letting others get you down. But at the same time, totally understand why he pissed you off too.
I was walking through the mall once and was looking into a nail salon. I must’ve had a mean look because I noticed some unusual movement from the corner of my eye, so I glanced that way and there was a woman cussing me out and getting up as if to fight. I wasn’t even looking at her. I just kept walking Some people just have short fuses I guess. I have been told that I often have a scowl on my face when I’m only just thinking but usually people just ask if I’m alright. They don’t usually try to fight me. Maybe you’ve got resting bítch face like me?
My first instinct was to deny it. But you’re partially right. But I try to be as friendly as I can. Because I know: “You catch more fly’s with honey than you do with vinegar.” But that guy was about 5 feet away and it was unmistakable. Hey, if I had my choice I would be nice all the time. It honestly makes me happier to be nice to someone than to scare them.
Some people just have short fuses I guess. I have been told that I often have a scowl on my face when I’m only just thinking but usually people just ask if I’m alright. They don’t usually try to fight me. Maybe you’ve got resting bítch face like me?