I'd like to coin a phrase - abusive-dependent

When we’re little we can’t help being dependent on the abusive, but what tends to happen is to grow up thinking to need someone is to have to put up with abuse. And then it gets allowed.

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Ummm…I think it’s called masochism. I’m trying to unlearn that.

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my husband thinks that is why i always have to have a crisis going on…

To be able to support oneself financially and only choose someone else you WANT, is recovery. Family, you cannot choose unless you need to disown them because they threaten your ability to take care of yourself…Family is an appointment. Toxic Family book is totally freeing if you just read the chapter about dealing with screwed up family situations…Do not respond to any of the insults,

Most sex relationships only work now if you do not need the other financially AT ALL.