How do you deal with a family member that caused you irreversible mental abuse over the years? I can’t move away because of financial reasons and I’m stuck living with them.
They talk to me as if nothing ever happened and they know I’m suffering.
What would you do if that person was no longer around? If I was you I would make moving away from them a big priority so that you aren’t dependent on your abuser. I know of a few folks on this site that live in group situations to make it affordable and it might not be ideal but it seems to me that would be better than the situation you’re currently in.
Try and make a plan to work towards to move out. Then disown them and never talk to them again, maybe confront them as well if you’re comfortable and it’s safe to do so.
I would say something along the lines of ‘you are the worst scum on earth, I wish nothing but pain and misery for you and you’re forever dead to me.’
However I’m an overdramatic bitch so maybe you aren’t comfortable being so upfront and rude.
I agree with @jrfam and @Anon10 . I have a lot of of problems being around some of my family, even though I haven’t lived with them for many years. Dwelling on negative feeling, anger resentment etc is draining and harmful.