Need some guidance

How do you deal with a family member that caused you irreversible mental abuse over the years? I can’t move away because of financial reasons and I’m stuck living with them.

They talk to me as if nothing ever happened and they know I’m suffering.

Do I let karma do the job?

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live your own life and let then live theirs. walk ur own path

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What would you do if that person was no longer around? If I was you I would make moving away from them a big priority so that you aren’t dependent on your abuser. I know of a few folks on this site that live in group situations to make it affordable and it might not be ideal but it seems to me that would be better than the situation you’re currently in.

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Life has it’s way of getting even… the more you dwell on it the more YOU suffer. Let it go and let nature take it’s course…

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Try and make a plan to work towards to move out. Then disown them and never talk to them again, maybe confront them as well if you’re comfortable and it’s safe to do so.

I would say something along the lines of ‘you are the worst scum on earth, I wish nothing but pain and misery for you and you’re forever dead to me.’

However I’m an overdramatic bitch so maybe you aren’t comfortable being so upfront and rude.

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That’s some good advice @jrfam you are right. I will suffer if I think about it more.

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@anon57786250 I speak from experience man… let it go and live your life in way you enjoy it. No need for those negative feelings.

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I agree with @jrfam and @Anon10 . I have a lot of of problems being around some of my family, even though I haven’t lived with them for many years. Dwelling on negative feeling, anger resentment etc is draining and harmful.

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Have you talked to them about what happened?

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